fabio10 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Hey all, most of you know my story in short my girl dumped me 3months ago now we had limited contact for a long time...but are no contact now the last about 3weeks I'd say ! I'am healing for sure but the last week I've had 4previous ex girlfriends chasing me quite intensively its like they are delighted I' ve goten dumped one whom I thought was being a good friend to me through the breakup over the weekend basically tried to rape me at a house party and when I turned her down got fairly mad and accused me of never being in love with my current ex 'it hurt', I feel like a piece of meat none of them seem to understand that I fell hard for this girl as they base everything on looks as I used to but I have never been so into someone as my current ex and looking at how these girls are behaving is just showing me even more how great my current ex girl is even tho she greatly hurt me, I have no intention of reaching out to her or the like Im just venting and really confused how these girls seem so intent to belittle the one woman I truely loved and my relationship with her.
Gdunkman Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 fabio, my friend, what happened to you? Is she still on a pedestal? Here is what I think about my ex, may be it will suit your situation as well. She definitely has many positive characteristics, that's why I loved her, but the key is: she doesn't want me in her life anymore, she promised to be with me and she lied, she prefers to spend her time with other man/men, she turned my life to the wrong direction, then went away. That's how her rating for me is way below zero. Around -10 000. Any average girl I meet is much better then her, because she haven't done anything wrong yet. Your ex may be smart, easy-going, sexy, creative and a good friend, but the MOST important thing is that she doesn't want you in her life.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Wait so you are upset because ex's want you back yet you want your most current ex back? Isn't it the same thing? I guess you are not ready to potentially begin dating others or don't want to date previous ex's. I actually wouldn't mind this situation myself as I'd give most of my ex's a second chance even though I am semi hung up on my most current ex because I can't sit around and wait for something that may never come.
Author fabio10 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Whats bugging me is how everyone seems to think I wasnt that into her and that she was not good enough for me ! I would'nt date any of them .... Hey Gman Im way happier than I was but I aint ready to go with other ladies just yet its nice to be desired and all but Im far from ready the gym and the partying and my new job is going well. Has she tried contacting you again lately Billie ?
Billie The Puppet Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Not once I actually haven't got the chance to ignore her. I hate how everyone instantly jumps to you can do better, she wasn't for you etc. My last reply was a bit of sarcasm if it's confusing. I'm 2 months broken up and still thinking I let the one get away. I am moving on in life without her. The only exception is I'm taking dating and meeting other women slow. Each date I have had didn't go as expected.
Author fabio10 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Ha prob not as confusing as my thread , I know what you are saying with regard to saying 'that my Ex's wanting me is the same as me wanting my current ex' but with all of them I didnt love any of them and never told them I did , and I dont really want my current ex back right now cause it just would not work in the foreseeable future maybe years down the line who knows. Are you ready in the case that she does try and contact you ? Mine did last week but I kept hush hush.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Well seeing as we both have gone NC for as long as we have (On 5th week) I don't see her breaking it nor myself. I will be hanging out with her sister again in the near future be it a few weeks or not. I will not be mentioning my ex what so ever in this meet up. This may make her want to break NC it may not. I'm having a hard time even knowing it is over because one week we were discussing engagement brought up by her and the next we are over. She has shown jealousy when I have shown signs of moving on but of course when I acted on them they backfired. (That backfire cause NC for both of us) Am I using NC as a game? I'd be lying if I say I wasn't yet at the same time I am healing from it. I don't expect my ex to ever break it. I also know it's purpose is not a game and it is for me to heal. It is a slow process but I am getting by my days. I'm a hypocrite cause I reply to others saying NC is for you to heal and it's not a game when a part of me is using it as a game. Do I want her to contact me? Yes I do Am I ready? Some days I am, others not so much seriously I have days now where I feel completely indifferent and the next I am just missing her so damn much. What will I do if she does? I'll ignore, I really want the opportunity to ignore her contact I did NC for myself before Limited contact but this was back when the BU was fresh and from what I was told it completely bothered my ex then. What if I answer? I'll answer with indifference even if I have to fake it, give her my ear for a short while and say I have another call (iPhone pressing hold makes it sound like you have a beep), I'll call you later. In which I'll leave it at that like she has done with me and leave it up to her to call back. Am I ready to reconcile if it were to come up? Truthfully no, If she were to want to work on "US" we would have to have a lot of discussions before an attempt is even made and most of these will be about the future. I wanted a future with her as I was ready to propose on my terms even though she has asked for it earlier on and the discussion came up again. I don't want her back if she is not ready to commit to a future with me. That is not to say we will be engaged right away obviously we would have to give it another go but I need complete honesty from her as I am with her. If it's not working out I want to hear that. I won't ask for chances again I just want the truth not for it to be dragged along. See this whole reply is a problem though because I am not moving on as you can see. I am getting by my days easier, been on dates etc but I am still hung up on my ex. No tears any more, still I miss her presence and voice and her family. However my physique has improved (lost a lot of weight) and I am doing things to better my life (Own a car and getting drivers license) (I got part 1/3 of my provinces) but relationship wise I can't give anyone the time of day or a piece of my heart because I still feel like the ex is holding onto it.
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