Sonolumino Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Just saw my ex and her new boyfriend together. My heart raced, jaw clenched, and muscles tensed. She was talking about how happy she was with him and how he's meeting her family. He's got about 3 inches on me in height. I'm so angry. I want to kill him. I thought I was passed this. It's been 2 months from a 4 year relationship. She started dating him 5 weeks after she ended it with me after the first guy she chased rejected her. I don't think she ever loved me. I think all I did was fulfill a need that she had, and then my time was up and she found a new person to fulfill that need. How could she rebound so fast like this? Will this ever stop? I'm sick and tired of letting a bitch who doesn't want me have this much power over me. I'm sick and tired of going back and forth between numbness and depression. For two weeks I've felt numb, feeling nothing toward anybody, and now this. I'm sorry I'm ranting, I've almost completely lost my confidence and I'm trying to vent. I know it's pathetic, but sometimes shouting into the proverbial dark of the internet helps for some reason. And I know, "you shouldn't let another person define your happiness". Fine. Logic isn't going to change these damn emotions.
rattled Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Just saw my ex and her new boyfriend together. My heart raced, jaw clenched, and muscles tensed. She was talking about how happy she was with him and how he's meeting her family. He's got about 3 inches on me in height. I'm so angry. I want to kill him. I thought I was passed this. It's been 2 months from a 4 year relationship. She started dating him 5 weeks after she ended it with me after the first guy she chased rejected her. I don't think she ever loved me. I think all I did was fulfill a need that she had, and then my time was up and she found a new person to fulfill that need. How could she rebound so fast like this? Will this ever stop? I'm sick and tired of letting a bitch who doesn't want me have this much power over me. I'm sick and tired of going back and forth between numbness and depression. For two weeks I've felt numb, feeling nothing toward anybody, and now this. I'm sorry I'm ranting, I've almost completely lost my confidence and I'm trying to vent. I know it's pathetic, but sometimes shouting into the proverbial dark of the internet helps for some reason. And I know, "you shouldn't let another person define your happiness". Fine. Logic isn't going to change these damn emotions. This! I know exactly what you're talking about and I definitely feel the exact same. I was so close to seeing my ex and her new boyfriend this weekend as well. I went to a bar for drinks and someone told me that they saw them in the vicinity so I left to avoid seeing it. I dodged a bullet for now but I know that day will come for me too. But hang in there man. Remember, nothings changed now that you've seen them. The facts remain the same.
Username37 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Bleh, I'm gonna head to school soon and I know I'll see them together. They had a date over the weekend and I know there gonna be all lovely dovely today.... Gah, I'll be strong and so will you
collegeguy_24 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 In a way I know how you feel. I've never seen my ex and her new BF together, but I have seen her new BF alone, and he always gives me that creepy smirk that says he won. Things is, I've been seeing that guy every where, its like he's stalking me. So I know your pain. Just try to hang in there and keep yourself from killing him. Try meditation, sometimes that helps. Hang with friends, ect.
SadGirl23 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 all I can say is I know how you feel. I haven't seen my ex bf with someone, as I haven't seen him at all since. But I know when you're thinking how do they go about thinking the relationship never happened especially when you been together for 4+ years But ugh, how can you be so sure its going to work out for her? Technically, she's only been with the guy for 1 month? HA, talk about meeting parents and moving along quick.
heartbroken301 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 i recently going through 2 month breakup with ex wife , and Ex Father inlaw came past to day and told me quick update , i told him" i dont wanna know , whats going on in her life , and what she is doing , and besides she got a new BF and happy and proud of him and he opens doors for her and showers her with perfume " , made me angry because i used to do that to her when i was courting her and now after 12yrs , well we were married for 5 yrs and seperated last year and i tried to reconcile with her , but 2 months ago , she told me that she was going on this blind date , and i though nothing off it , and the the day i was by the friends place his wife still asked me why arent u not going to the theather 2night so i told her , that she told me she was going with friends and meeting a guy , i thought cool , and never thought it would happen . and to my amazement that night she told me , that she never wanted to see mee agian and she met this wonderful ,amazing guy last night and that she is in love with him ? ok i siad fine and thats where im at 2months no contact , and her Dad rocks up at my place and gives me n up date ( me and the dad very close , helping him out on many occations when the Exs mom kicked thedad out and didnt have place to stay ) anyway told me that she got bew car and she introduced him to her new friend . i told him i wanted to make it work , but she tihink the grass is greenier on the other side and i told her dad i cant do anything about it , that shes moved on , and so have i , But im Dredding the day when i bump into them . i dont think i would be able to handle it any way her dad still told me that hes not , too happy about this new guy and doesnt support her on this new guy and if she ever marrys him that he would skip town . my point is its sad how i got replaced so quickly and tried to reconcile with her and , nothat she got a new car , new bf to show off she doesnt need me . by the way she was my 1st love marreid 5yrs and went out 7yrs no kids . how can some one move on so quickly ? wow im hurt .
Author Sonolumino Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 You're right guys. I was just really pissed off last night and stuff when I wrote that. It's better today. And you're right sadgirl, there is no guarantee it's going to work out between them. She's rebounding and it's still in the honeymoon stage. She never dealt with the emotions she had for me, she just buried them in another person. Besides, I'm biased biased as Hell, but this dude just seems really dumb. I take a bit of comfort in that haha. It's impossible not to compare yourself to the other person, especially when it's thrown in your face like that. Ah but thanks for your responses, they do help out.
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