Can Someone Cheer Me up and tell me I really am not missing much without this girl

[moodoo]

1 month ago me and my gf of 2 yrs split for good. We haven't spoken since and I'm just so down these days.On one hand she was so sweet to me, pretty(a model when younger), smart(she was in law school and graduates in may), and a blast to be around.......but she also had her bad side....she did cocaine more than casually ie few times a month. She did grugs whenever she partied and other drugs from time to time like ecstasy, why I have no idea, I've never been into drugs myself so I don't know....she was in rehab 6 yrs ago at 18 for heroin, but got her life together and was in a top 10 law school. All of her friends were all the "cool" people who nobody thinks are cool and were community college grads or waitresses or bartenders.I think i looked at all the positives I saw in her and never any of the negatives and that's a bad reflection on me.....anyhoo, I've been down for the past month and im down now still.....should I be....was she really such a catch like im making her out to be?? I guess it's just so rare to meet a woman whose gorgeous, like bombshell gorgeous not just good-looking and on a path to a promising career. It just sucks because we were such good friends too...I hate drugs

[Eeyore79]

She is a drug addict and you are better off without her. You really need to get tested though; she could have given you a disease which she caught from her drug use.

[jayone]

Wait, she's been in rehab for drugs? She don't have much of a career in law. In the UK if you have any type of recorded drug problem chasing a career in law is stupid. It will be thrown back in her face.

 

Any girl on drugs isn't worth it. Been there with those sort of girls so many times when i was younger.

 

And no, it's not rare to meet a gorgeous woman with a career. There are LOADS of them out there.

 

Stop beating yourself up. She's not even worth it mate. These days if I found out my girlfriend was taking drugs she'd be out of my life that instant.

[Sivok]

Haha wow. I'm in a very similar spot as you man. My ex girlfriend was a drop dead gorgeous girl in a prestigious university and a 3.9 GPA. Her best friends were either drop outs or community college grads, she started stripping, and she did coke. Oh, she was also cheating on me the entire length of our relationship - she had a bf she was seeing before me that she never broke off with. We broke up 1 month ago.

 

Do I miss her? Yeah I do. Regardless of what happens, I still cared about her and have feelings for her. I also have a hard time finding attraction in other women right now - i loved her. Getting over that takes time. It's just something you need to do your best not to cave back into.

[pandagirl]

It's ok to miss her and care about her -- you are human after all!

 

But, just remember that this is not a person you want to be with. She obviously doesn't have her life together and though she is in school, her drug problem shows that she is nowhere near a place in her life to have a meaningful, mature relationship.

 

Do you want someone like that? No.

[Dazzel]

I know how hard a break up can be but I think you are doing yourself a huge favor by doing this. A lot of times when people are into drugs, especially the kinds she is into, they never really drop the habit. And as I am sure you have heard, many of these druggies eventually cause problems if they are married. Divorce, spending all their money, losing their kids, etc.

I dated someone who was into drugs just for two months. That was all it took for me to see that he was going down a bad path in which I didn't want to follow him.

 

Please give yourself a pat on the back and try to cheer up. You are likely saving yourself from a lot of future problems.