brutaldeluxe Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Hi First post - Split up with my GF about 18 months ago - we'd been together 2 years. My first real long term adult relationship. It was my decision, relationship was ok to good, but bad towards the end - although both still clearly cared for each other it just wasnt working, i knew i wasnt happy and i finished it. I was fine for about 2 months - then started forgetting the bad times - tried to get her back but she was moving on. Fast forward to today and i am really struggling to cope, really unhappy every single day/ Convinced myself its the biggest mistake ive ever made. She;s on my mind all the time, every day first thing in the morning and last thing at night. They say time is a great healer - for me its been the opposite. Currently each day seems to be getting worse, i've seem to have put her on a pedastool. There isnt any contact now, there was fairly frequent contact for about 6 months after we split, although she still is friends with my friends and i expect ill need to see her at one friends leaving do next week. Maybe this is why feelings are worse at the moment. She's totally moved on has a new bloke etc. Im 31 and have convinced myself she was the best ill ever get and just seem to be constantly punishing myself because it was my decision to stop it. Have tried moving on dating Other woman but every one i've just compared to my ex and finished with them as they werent her. I know this is totally wrong. Really at my wits end - managed to get a new job, exact industry i want to work in, large raise etc - i should be happy about life etc but am not and it all seems to be down to this. Never have a good day and it always comes back to her - i thought the new job would make me happy, the good days lasted maybe a week and then back to the bad times. I dunno if its just being single and missing my perceived great relationship ( i definitely remember being unhappy). Dunno what else to try - surely after 18 months things should be ok ? or at least getting better ? i dont seem to know how to move on - i thought it would just happen but it doenst seem too - not sure what else to try - guess thats why im posting here. If anyone has any advice - id be most greatful. Here's hoping we all manage to cope.Take care people. BDeluxe.
Recommended Posts