Me and myself Posted February 27, 2004 Posted February 27, 2004 Why is it so hard to maintain a relationship? I am married for 2 years. I am an incest survivor, I am a little stand off kind a person. I feel like nothing is good enough for him, I try so hard to be "normal", I go to therapy, I am really trying! If I am moody for few days he's bashing me saying that I am a Bi***h! I am frustrated! I HAVE to deal with my heavy post incest aspect of my life, handle a 16 months old, help with the business and he's never happy. Thank you so much for listening. Y.
Tony T Posted February 27, 2004 Posted February 27, 2004 His unhappiness has nothing to do with you. If you happen on a partner who's had his happiness plug pulled there's nothing you can do about it but get away...so stop trying to make him happy. Just be yourself. It's up to your partner to achieve his own happiness. Of course, go about your duties as a partner but don't go overboard. It would be nice if you can tone down the PMS bitchiness because that stuff is annoying to most men...but they learn to expect it and live with it. The only thing that's going to help this man is realizing he has a problem himself and doing something about it. I personally don't know how people who are unhappy go about making themselves happy. I sort of think an unhappiness gene is something you're born with. Perhaps counselling or therapy would help. Then again, maybe he's quite content at being discontent.
carla Posted February 27, 2004 Posted February 27, 2004 Maybe you should bring him to one of your counselling sessions so he can see for himself, how much you are hurting. It may make him relise that it takes a long time to get over something like this.
lilmoma1973 Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=indigo][/color] hey all i too feel this way about my s/o .. i feel that nothing i do is right .. im damned if i do and damned if i don't ... sometimes i feel that he is doing me a favor by being with me.. i wish i could have a relationship where i belonged .. i don't feel love needed or wanted in this relationship so i can relate to what you feel me and myself...
moimeme Posted May 30, 2004 Posted May 30, 2004 don't feel love needed or wanted in this relationship Then call a counsellor. That's no way to live.
lilmoma1973 Posted June 2, 2004 Posted June 2, 2004 [font=times new roman][/font][color=darkblue][/color] i totally agree with you moimeme that is no way to live and we have been to counseling so i don't know what to do.. we are now reading the dr phil book relationship rescue so pray for me
lilmoma1973 Posted June 3, 2004 Posted June 3, 2004 [font=courier new][/font][color=indigo][/color] thanks moimmeme for the reply i can use all the prayers i can get
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