Sheppy99 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 (edited) So it's only been a little over a month since we broke up and I found out yesterday that my ex is already in another relationship. Surprisingly thanks to NC, it didn't bug me that much at all. I said some reactionary negative things that I hope she doesn't hear but other than that I am fine. After the break up she really hounded me to be friends but I did the right thing and said a firm no, wished her well and started ignoring her completely. It's done wonders with my moving on, so has going to the gym 5 or 6 times a week. I guess I am a little surprised and curious. She's dating this guy who is a huge loser. Had kids with different girls who he's bailed on and really makes me wonder what the hell she is doing. Some are telling me that it's a huge sign that she was missing me and the fact that I denied friendship, she needed something, anything to gain that companionship to move on so basically a classic rebound. Others are saying she doesn't care at all about anything and moving on this soon is proof of that. A few of my girlfriends are saying to be careful and that girls who jump this soon into another relationship are trying to replace the old relationship and it will inevitably crash and burn and at that point they will come crawling back almost every time and to stay strong in the NC. What do you guys think? My core feeling is that my ex has some issues and she is a bit of a selfish all about herself type of person. So I could see her using someone to move on or maybe she just didn't care at all about our relationship which I find hard to believe and moving on this soon is really proof of that? Edited October 3, 2010 by Sheppy99
jayone Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Don't worry about her Sheppy, she's not worrying about you. She don't deserve the a millisecond of your thought time. Let her get on with it. Some people like to replace love quickly. Some people can't stand being alone.
Author Sheppy99 Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 Don't worry about her Sheppy, she's not worrying about you. She don't deserve the a millisecond of your thought time. Let her get on with it. Some people like to replace love quickly. Some people can't stand being alone. Yeah good point. I promised myself I'd never ever make someone be my rebound again. It's not fair to hurt someone else cause you are hurting inside. I'm feeling a lot better and I really think NC is the real deal and it's helped me move on way better than any rebound has in the past when I was younger. I guess I was just hoping I really did mean more to her but I can't fault myself in that. She has a lot of issues and like I said is a very selfish person. I still can't shake out of my mind the time I stayed up till the wee hours of the morning trying to fix something for her and was very tired for work the next morning to which she replied "Oh, I wonder if my ex bf will buy me another one" (This was before we started dating) Stupid me should of taken this as a huge sign and ran. I'm doing super well moving on but I guess I still have that 20 percent of me that can't shake thinking about her from time to time. Something about her just got engraved into my brain. I'm hoping in another month of NC that will be completely gone because the first month and a half of NC has worked wonders and I thank this site for keeping me strong!
jayone Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Yeah good point. I promised myself I'd never ever make someone be my rebound again. It's not fair to hurt someone else cause you are hurting inside. I'm feeling a lot better and I really think NC is the real deal and it's helped me move on way better than any rebound has in the past when I was younger. I guess I was just hoping I really did mean more to her but I can't fault myself in that. She has a lot of issues and like I said is a very selfish person. I still can't shake out of my mind the time I stayed up till the wee hours of the morning trying to fix something for her and was very tired for work the next morning to which she replied "Oh, I wonder if my ex bf will buy me another one" (This was before we started dating) Stupid me should of taken this as a huge sign and ran. I'm doing super well moving on but I guess I still have that 20 percent of me that can't shake thinking about her from time to time. Something about her just got engraved into my brain. I'm hoping in another month of NC that will be completely gone because the first month and a half of NC has worked wonders and I thank this site for keeping me strong! My first love still takes up that 20% of me and I cannot shake it. It's been 2 years. My second love will fade fast because it was a rebound and I didn't have much love for her. It's harsh to say. But keep on the fighting path your doing very well!
xinchao123 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Looks like we're on the same boat. it's been over 2 weeks NC and I'm very comfortable thinking about her now, just missing the sweet memories only. 80% up and ready . Be strong Steppy and stick to NC no matter what !
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