OnlyJake Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 I invited a girl I met through work to several activities over the course of a few months. This girl was really pressing how lonely she was and trying to be friends and everything, so I invited her to probably a dozen or more things - all were specific events, such as "My friends and I are checking out this new restaurant at 7:30, here's the address, you should come!" Never, "Oh hey I'm bored, what are you doing tonight?" or "We should hang out this weekend." She accepted 2 invitations, none others, and never reciprocated by inviting me to anything, so I stopped asking her out to do things. Whenever she declined an invitation it was because she was going out on her friends' boat instead, or some other fun activity. She finally did call me, but it was more of a "I have nothing else to do, so what are you and your friends doing tonight" kind of message. I forgot to call her back, mostly because I wasn't doing anything, and didn't care to call her back. It also made me kind of feel used. I think of building new friendships kind of like dating. There needs to be a certain level of reciprocity and similar interest levels. I asked a guy what he thought, and he thought I was being silly and reading too much into it. He said that I'm usually pretty cool about things, but was being a complete girl over this. Do guys and girls see this differently?
Pyro Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 I'm a guy and your POV is just fine. No one wants to be a friend with someone who you have to do all the initiating with.
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