jls74555 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 I've been in an LDR for awhile now. We met while I was studying abroad in Germany in high school and were good friends before beginning our relationship. We both have the same goals and are both willing to (eventually) move to either country. Right now, I'm finishing my Bachelor's degree and preparing to go to Medical School and he's working as an Intern at a bank in Germany. I will be finished with my degree in May of 2012 and he'll be finished with his internship in February of 2013. My problem is: I can either attend Medical School in the US (4 year program) or go to Medical School in Germany (6 year program that does NOT require a bachelor's degree). Since I am finished with my program first, I'm the one who has to choose first. While he's looking at attending university here, financing it is much harder for him, as the US is much more stringent on foreigners studying here. Tuition costs are much lower in Germany but aren't the biggest factor in my choosing to move. While he hasn't stated a direct ultimatum, it is implied that, if I attend medical school here and he can't study here at the same time, then the relationship will have to end, due to that being at least another 4 years of not being together. I want to move, but I feel as though I would have wasted thousands of dollars and 4 years getting a bachelor's degree to end up going to German medical school, where it isn't required, since students enter directly out of high school. Also, studying there would make it almost impossible for me to return to work in the United States without having to go through years of red tape. I don't want my relationship to end, as I would eventually like to move there, but I don't know if I'm ready to sacrifice my education and give up any hope of working in my own country. If anyone has advice or suggestions, I'd really appreciate it. :]
Lostatnight Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 That's a tough question... I'll try and reply just as no one else has, but I highly recommend you talk to your family, friends, and maybe even a counsellor (maybe your university has one for free? I'll be harsh and say I don't know anyone who met in high school who is still together... I am sure there are such couples, and someone will probably post here to correct me, but my point is, that you might be a little inexperienced to make such a life changing decision. Also, add in the fact that you are in a ldr and not really living together yet, you might not even like each other soon after being together, regardless of your age/experience But, as I said, I am playing devil's advocate - I strongly urge you to go see someone you can sit down and discuss this with (maybe in several sessions over a month or more... Good luck!
SophieA Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Yikes. I don't know if I'd want to go to med school in Germany if you ever plan on practicing in the US in the future. There are TONS of rules/regulations involved with testing/licensing/what have you. It could get very ugly. I would definitely do some research before heading to med school outside the US if you think you'd ever want to practice medicine there.
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