Hhhh Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 My ex broke up with me she has a stress on her mind Just a few days into university and she said she's seeing things differently and says she wants to focus on herself she's been having doubts for about a month she says she still loves me but ignores my calls and texts Wtfff does this mean? I haven't been the best boyfriend out there haven't made her feel spcieal for a few months now but I also have a lot on my mind she mentioned in the past that I gotten meaner What is this about? Do you think she just wasnt happy in the relationship or just pushing me away to deal with university? Do I still got a chance to get her back?
Mad Max Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 My ex broke up with me she has a stress on her mind That's code for "I found someone else". Forget her and move on.
Author Hhhh Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 That's code for "I found someone else". Forget her and move on. Why does everyone assume it has to do with someone else?
Mad Max Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Why does everyone assume it has to do with someone else? Because she's a coward for not telling you the truth. Any guy with experience has been there. She's ignoring your calls and texts for a reason.
Author Hhhh Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 Because she's a coward for not telling you the truth. Any guy with experience has been there. She's ignoring your calls and texts for a reason. I called her 4 days after the break up and she picked up and started crying when I asked her to meet up she said it was to hard for her to meet up... After that she started ignoring them I think she's trying to get over me... She's 17 and this is our first relationship
Mad Max Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I called her 4 days after the break up and she picked up and started crying when I asked her to meet up she said it was to hard for her to meet up... After that she started ignoring them I think she's trying to get over me... She's 17 and this is our first relationship Manipulation tactic
flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 That's code for "I found someone else". Forget her and move on. I don't know if it means she has met someone else, but she broke up with you and has made it clear how she feels. You have to move on, I'm sorry, I know it sucks.. I'm going through this myself, as are many of us. You can't change her mind, or win her back. If she wants you back she'll come to you, you have to leave her alone as she's broken up with you which means she doesn't want to be with you, and her ignoring your calls means she wants to be left alone.
Tayla Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Most times transitioning to a University environment can change the stress level ten fold. Unlike the other poster- I doubt its ANOTHER person so much as the transition over to the school system. She was upfront and honest about the matters. As were you with your character shortcomings of being mean. A person doesn't have to tolerate unkindness... No one has a crystal ball....so take it one day at a time. What I have found to be true...most guys when being the recipient of the break up seem to desire the person MORE only after the girl gets the nerve up to end things. A decent chap would remedy the damage and move on if need be....Its your choice how you manage it.
Author Hhhh Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 Most times transitioning to a University environment can change the stress level ten fold. Unlike the other poster- I doubt its ANOTHER person so much as the transition over to the school system. She was upfront and honest about the matters. As were you with your character shortcomings of being mean. A person doesn't have to tolerate unkindness... No one has a crystal ball....so take it one day at a time. What I have found to be true...most guys when being the recipient of the break up seem to desire the person MORE only after the girl gets the nerve up to end things. A decent chap would remedy the damage and move on if need be....Its your choice how you manage it. I like this post the best she also has anxiety at night causing her to breathe heavy when she stressing out she obviously doesn't handle it well I was thinking about sending a hand written letter mentioning I accept her decision and leaving it from there until I hear from her what do you suggest?
Cee Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 (edited) It sounds like she is in a big transition and wants to go it alone. It's over, no question about it. I'd be willing to bet $ on it. Same thing happened to me. I went to college & my LTR evaporated in a matter of days. I was too immersed in my new life with friends, parties, classes to deal with a LDR. My ex was cool about it b/c he expected it to happen so it was a mutual decision. Good luck in the healing process. Edit: I don't think it's a great idea to write a letter after being dumped. It's like sending a thank you note for being fired. Edited October 2, 2010 by Cee
Author Hhhh Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 It sounds like she is in a big transition and wants to go it alone. It's over, no question about it. I'd be willing to bet $ on it. Same thing happened to me. I went to college & my LTR evaporated in a matter of days. I was too immersed in my new life with friends, parties, classes to deal with a LDR. My ex was cool about it b/c he expected it to happen so it was a mutual decision. Good luck in the healing process. Edit: I don't think it's a great idea to write a letter after being dumped. It's like sending a thank you note for being fired. I think your right she mentioned she needs to focus on herself and she said I deserve more than what she can give me right now but I'm hoping like any other guy that somewhere down the line when she eases into university she will give me a call About the letter I will regret it if I don't say what I want to say she was so in love with me whenever she went on vacation she would write hand written letters so I'm going to give it a shot
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