Logic Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I dumped my ex after things got a bit too heavy for me. I needed some space and still felt hurt over my previous gf who dumped me after a messy break-up. I told her I wasn't sure about us and then went NC. She tried to contact me but I couldn't face it so I ignored her. Then she went NC. 1 year later and I miss her I just don't know what to do. Should I chase her and show her I want her back? And how much should I contact her? Or should I just contact her once, play it cool and leave it to her? I don't want to grovel, but I do want to make up for hurting her and to see if there's anything there between us now.
charliecharlie Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 So if I get it right a year has passed and you haven't been in contact ever since? I'd say before you throw yourself at her, gather some information. Do you know anything about her life right now? Is she seeing someone, or is there any way you can find out how she is doing? If there is no way you can find out, then I'd say pick up the phone and call her. Ask her how she is doing and depending on how the conversation goes, ask her out for a drink. You will find out soon enough if she is still into you. If things go well, have the guts to speak your mind (and take the risk being dumped by her). Keep us posted!
Author Logic Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 ^ thanks for your advice Charlie. Yes its been a year no contact. It's tough to get much information as we totally broke off contact and don't have any mutual friends. I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a bf at the moment and she seems to be her normal self. I emailed her to tell her I was sorry and tried to make normal conversation. But she didn't reply. I no longer have her number. So the only ways I can contact her is by email/seeing her in person. I'm just still not sure whether I should keep emailing her or leave her be??
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 If someone dumped me and then tried to re-establish contact a year later, I'd probably ignore that communication unless he clearly tells me what it is that he wants. Sending a "Hey, how are you?" chit-chat e-mail isn't going to cut it. If you want to see where you stand with her, maturely lay out your hopes (which isn't groveling, btw) and see if she responds. If she does, then proceed from there. If she doesn't, then leave her alone.
Author Logic Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 ^ that's what I needed to know. You're a legend thanks
lovehearts Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Oh no babe I get the feeling you should leave her be. You kinda shot yourself in the foot by dumping her, then cutting her off and now wanting to re enter her life now is gonna be hard.She might not want to risk getting hurt again and it's been a year so a lot of time has past. If it was a few months then maybe a better chance and she didn't reply to your email? The no reply is probably your reply, sorry.
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