LadyElise Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. I instantly liked him because he was much more mature than the guys my age (i'm 16 and he's 18) and he treated me perfectly. He told me he loved me within the first week of meeting me, which took me back but i let it slip because i liked him. He met my parents and they adored him, he started to stay at mine more and more until he was basically living with me. He had depression and opened up to me about his suicide attempts very quickly.We'd just stay up all night and talk -i felt we were extremely close. He didn't really take me out but he didn't have a job so i didn't mind. I gave him my virginity within 2 months- i really was blinded by how quickly the relationship was going. We went on holiday twice and had some amazing memories, i genuinely thought i'd found the person i was going to spend my life with so early and couldn't believe my luck. 7 months down the line he got back into education, got backdated benifits so he didn't have to borrow money off me anymore and moved back in with his parents. He started to tell me not to mess with his hair or sit and stand so close to him. He was also very pushy once when i said i wasn't in the mood.. i told him if he did it again it was over. He told me he didn't love me 2 weeks later. He broke up with me, continued to text, i stupidly asked for a second chance, he came to mine that night and told me he loved me and that wanted to marry me one day. He tried to sleep with me that night. The next time we met he broke up with me again. I have spoken to him once since, asking why he tried to sleep with me when he didn't love me. He told me he was trying to "seal the deal" and "what's the problem? we were going out and now we're not". The person i love has not only changed his personality but he's also dyed his hair blonde (he never would have). I feel completely naive and pathetic but i don't feel this all could have been an act.I'm moving on but this has left me completely devestated by this.. what did i do wrong? Why has he changed so much?
shayan Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Nothing went wrong. You are incredibly young, and though you think your boyfriend was mature he was merely a teen. During this period of dating in the early stages of your life I don't think you should expect marriage from anyone regardless of what they say. I say this because you are still developing a great deal, and so will the people you are dating around your age. Therefore, more likely than not the people you are dating will change to some extent or another. My advice is that you don't take relationships so seriously at a young age, and don't allow your relationships to move so fast. Try enjoying who you date and just having fun, and also focus on building yourself and figuring out who you are as a person. Slow it down and take it a day at a time. During this time do not contact your ex, he is unstable and though you may feel he is the right one for you I don't think he's a good choice. You may be lucky and find the right guy your next tangle but please take it slow, and try to enjoy your youth.
Leandro Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Sometimes people just change. My ex is 16 and she changed a lot in the past month. It just happens. I thought she was very mature for her age too. The way she left me opened my eyes to how immature she is.
Username37 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Hey, I'm 17 years old and my ex is 17 too. First relationship (started Nov. 14, 2008) , first break up (May 16, 2010) Our relationship was pretty damn serious. We thought we would last forever. Then she changed and after the break up....oh man...not good. Really showed me her true colors Lesson learned. At a young age, a serious relationship is not a good idea. It was fun, don't get me wrong, but when it's over, it ****ing hurts so much. We're young. Good thing we found LS at such a young age. We might experience more heartbreak in the future, but now that we got all this information, we're gonna be better people the next time around
Leandro Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 We're young. Good thing we found LS at such a young age. We might experience more heartbreak in the future, but now that we got all this information, we're gonna be better people the next time around Yea I agree with Username. We learn what to do and not to do after future break ups. How to use NC to heal faster and move on. It will help us out in the future.
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