flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Ok, I've been NC with my ex for about 3 weeks. Some days were a lot harder than others.... but I'm getting there. Anyway yesterday I realised I couldn't go to a concert that I had bought tickets for me and my ex ages ago as a surprise for our anniversary. I was going to go anyway with a friend but can't go now. I stupidly messaged my ex yesterday asking him if he wants the tickets as I know he would love to go. He hasn't replied yet, and I REGRET SO MUCH asking him! I feel like sending another message saying: ignore my email, i know it seems strange me asking you but just thought you would have liked to have gone. I'm gonna sell the tickets. What do you think? Or what do you think I should do to get myself out of this mess?? I don't want him to think I messaged him to get him to start talking to me again, I just genuinely thought he would love to go and wanted to ask him first before selling them. But now I've realised my mistake, and he'll probably think I'm crazy. HELP!
Author flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 On the other hand, I could look at it as a way to start talking and having LC... Although I'm not ready for that now, I think its too soon. I'm fine with us not talking, although I miss him terribly Plus I wanted him to be the one to initiate contact if we were ever to go LC.... oh god I'm screwed! I messed it up!
leftfordead2 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I wouldn't send another email again. If he doesn't reply, there's your answer, he doesn't care. When is the concert? If it's getting really close and he doesn't reply, just sell it. If he does happen to reply at the last minute, just tell him that you take his silence as a no-go and thus, you have sold the tickets since you can't make it.
Author flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 I wouldn't send another email again. If he doesn't reply, there's your answer, he doesn't care. When is the concert? If it's getting really close and he doesn't reply, just sell it. If he does happen to reply at the last minute, just tell him that you take his silence as a no-go and thus, you have sold the tickets since you can't make it. Yeah that is what I thought of doing, but it doesn't take away the fact that I feel like an idiot! lol
leftfordead2 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Lol don't worry about it, everyone has been an idiot at some stage or another, including me. If you read through many of the threads here, a lot of them broke NC and then later felt stupid for doing so, thus, you're not alone.
Don Ho Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 You only feel like an idiot. If you didn't still care for him, your perception of the situation would be different. You wouldn't care and it wouldn't matter. Comprende? If you had dumped him, you wouldn't even think twice about making the offer.
Author flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 You only feel like an idiot. If you didn't still care for him, your perception of the situation would be different. You wouldn't care and it wouldn't matter. Comprende? If you had dumped him, you wouldn't even think twice about making the offer. Do you think he will think I'm an idiot for asking him?? Is there anyway I can fix it? Maybe by saying, 'sorry for asking you, don't know what i was thinking, im gonna sell the tickets.' Or should i just leave it, and if he does reply I'll just say 'sorry i sold the tickets.'
Don Ho Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 NO do not contact him!! Like I said, it's just your perception that you were an idiot. If you do anything, then you really will look like an idiot. Do nothing. IF he contacts you can say you gave them away or whatever.
Author flow15 Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 NO do not contact him!! Like I said, it's just your perception that you were an idiot. If you do anything, then you really will look like an idiot. Do nothing. IF he contacts you can say you gave them away or whatever. Ok, I will leave it then. Thanks for the reply! By the way, do you think all this will put him off wanting to contact me in future?
Billie The Puppet Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 If you are in NC, Your ex putting off contacting you won't matter because you are in NC, could it be you sent this because you wanted out of NC and wanted to rekindle LC? I sent my ex a text by mistake that was meant for my mother[About flights]. (My ex is 1 below my mom in contact list and I selected my ex) When it was sent I realized I made a mistake but I wasn't going to send any more text's explaining it. I figured if she texted or called back whatever I would then explain it and leave it at that. She never contacted there in afterwards. That was a week ago I am now starting week 5 of No Contact.
Cuchara2 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Basically, if he does reply then don't reply whatever it says and make sure it doesn't happen again. So you had one slip up. You might get him wondering and he might contact you, it's your choice what to do then but you can continue to no contact and he'll get the point that you didn't mean to do it.
Author flow15 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 So he didn't reply.... I feel like a complete idiot! I hate myself, and I hate him for doing this to me. Even though he's nto a friend on facebook, I can see that he writes on othher people's., so I know for sure that he saw my email. It hurts so much that he is actually ignoring me on purpose, when I was doing something nice, despite all the s**t he's put me through. Sorry I'm having a vent here, but I'm so angry now, how dare he treat me this way!! I'm remembering now how horrible he was to me during the break up, when I did nothing wrong.... I'm thinking of all the lies he told me in the past,eg. there was a girl he told me he hated, and now he has added her on facebook and is always talking to her. what is that all about? He's full of b** s***, at least he's out of my life.... and can't hurt me anymore.... but why did i have to fall for him in the first place... it makes me so angry.
Ajax Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 So he didn't reply.... I feel like a complete idiot! I hate myself, and I hate him for doing this to me. Even though he's nto a friend on facebook, I can see that he writes on othher people's., so I know for sure that he saw my email. It hurts so much that he is actually ignoring me on purpose, when I was doing something nice, despite all the s**t he's put me through. Sorry I'm having a vent here, but I'm so angry now, how dare he treat me this way!! I'm remembering now how horrible he was to me during the break up, when I did nothing wrong.... I'm thinking of all the lies he told me in the past,eg. there was a girl he told me he hated, and now he has added her on facebook and is always talking to her. what is that all about? He's full of b** s***, at least he's out of my life.... and can't hurt me anymore.... but why did i have to fall for him in the first place... it makes me so angry. Sorry you're feeling this way Flow. I ask myself the same questions about my ex daily. I think exes often have to villify us to make themselves feel justified in dumping us. Then after everyone's healed a bit things are put back in perspective.
Author flow15 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Sorry you're feeling this way Flow. I ask myself the same questions about my ex daily. I think exes often have to villify us to make themselves feel justified in dumping us. Then after everyone's healed a bit things are put back in perspective. How can I heal? I just wany this pain and anger to go... I don't even want him back. I just want to heal! Any advice? I'm keepin myself busy but he's always on my mind. Realy wish I hadn't met him
Cuchara2 Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Well you know my story (kinda). I feel what you're feeling. I see her every day but I just don't care any more, however I sometimes get hit back loads =/. I got a friend coming from another country who I used to go out with and who I truly love as a friend and I have plans of getting "close" to her, so we'll see My advice is go get with other people, even if it's for 1 night (doesn't need to be sex, just go make out with them etc.). You will never forget the pain and it will never truly leave because there will always be reminders, but you can make it hurt less.
Author flow15 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 Well you know my story (kinda). I feel what you're feeling. I see her every day but I just don't care any more, however I sometimes get hit back loads =/. I got a friend coming from another country who I used to go out with and who I truly love as a friend and I have plans of getting "close" to her, so we'll see My advice is go get with other people, even if it's for 1 night (doesn't need to be sex, just go make out with them etc.). You will never forget the pain and it will never truly leave because there will always be reminders, but you can make it hurt less. haha thanks for the advice, although I would advise you not to get 'close' to this other girl, just to replace your ex or because you miss your ex. in the end you'll end up hurting her, and then your feelings for your ex will come back. im sorry you have to see her every day, i'm lucky i don't... but doesn't mean i dont think about him... its weird, some days i am so upset, i think of all the good times and cant understand how our love disappeared... and other days i am just angry.. i feel like he just strung me along. i hope i will meet someone else soon, i am glad i have reached the stage now where i don't want him back.
Don Ho Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Flow, anger is good. It beats depression and misery. Good, stay busy. You should be out meeting guys too; coffee, lunch, movie whatever. Just stay occupied. It will and does get easier. Remember, the best revenge is a GOOD LIFE. Go find a hot guy to date and let your Ex see you around town.
Cuchara2 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 (edited) haha thanks for the advice, although I would advise you not to get 'close' to this other girl, just to replace your ex or because you miss your ex. in the end you'll end up hurting her, and then your feelings for your ex will come back. im sorry you have to see her every day, i'm lucky i don't... but doesn't mean i dont think about him... its weird, some days i am so upset, i think of all the good times and cant understand how our love disappeared... and other days i am just angry.. i feel like he just strung me along. i hope i will meet someone else soon, i am glad i have reached the stage now where i don't want him back. I'm gonna get "close" to this girl because she's hot and I need someone to forget my ex. It's going to hurt her regardless of when it happens =/ I'm not doing it to get her jealous or anything, it's because she left me, not the other way around. If she doesn't want to appreciate me, then she doesn't have to, someone else can. Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention, today I feel like UTTER ****. The best thing is to talk to someone about all your problems. I got my best female friend and she's been so supportive, it's amazing to just vent this stuff out. Edited October 5, 2010 by Cuchara2
Author flow15 Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Flow, anger is good. It beats depression and misery. Good, stay busy. You should be out meeting guys too; coffee, lunch, movie whatever. Just stay occupied. It will and does get easier. Remember, the best revenge is a GOOD LIFE. Go find a hot guy to date and let your Ex see you around town. ha! i wish my ex could see me around town with a hot guy.... thing is he won't because he lives far from me now. in a way its good, as i don't have to see him but then its annoying when i want to make him jealous!
Author flow15 Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 I'm gonna get "close" to this girl because she's hot and I need someone to forget my ex. It's going to hurt her regardless of when it happens =/ I'm not doing it to get her jealous or anything, it's because she left me, not the other way around. If she doesn't want to appreciate me, then she doesn't have to, someone else can. Oh, yeah, I forgot to mention, today I feel like UTTER ****. The best thing is to talk to someone about all your problems. I got my best female friend and she's been so supportive, it's amazing to just vent this stuff out. good for you!!! we deserve to be with or around people who appreciate us! it is good to talk about everything and let it all out, cos eventually you just get sick of hearing yourself talking about it!! i know i don't like to talk about it too much with my friends cos i don't want them to get fed up of me talking about him. so i try not to talk about it too much... but its not nice when you feel like crap and its eating u up inside... which is why i come on here to vent!!
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