Anyone?

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Is there anyone out there who has had experience with a teenager who does not take responsibility for his actions, has low or no self confidence, does not care about others feelings or if he does he just blames himself for their misery and hits himself continuously in the head, legs, chest etc, goes crazy at times and runs around the neighbourhood and swears and when someone sees him he just suddenly stops as if aware that another person beside the one he is hurting is there? Please let me know. My ex is like this and I want to help him but he does not want any help. He goes to therapy once a week but that's about it. He thinks his family and friends are helping him but any idiot can see that all they are doing is going along with whatever he says as he always gets his way due to his stubborness. He dropped out of school because he didn't FEEL like going to school, he said no to Uni studies because he didn't FEEL like going to uni. He has no desire to have a career. Wants to be a writer/director but does nothing about it esp after his parents enrolled him into a writing course and bought him an expensive camera. Is very lazy..both physically and mentally, feels that whatever his feelings are he should go with them and that he is right. Misses his dad a lot when is away from him as his dad does a whole lot of things for him. He is 19 going on 20 but sometimes his thoughts are like a child. Play with one toy, get bored, chuck it away and buy another toy. Does not have empathy that the other person is hurting and has feelings too. He said he never was committed to or was confident about anything in life except having me. But when he finally got me his mind could not cope with a relationship (could have been any girl..is just unfortunate it was me). I really want to help him as I know deep down he is a very nice person...sometimes with me I saw that. Sort of like Jekyll and Hyde. I want the good person to take over but seems like the bad one has taken over. I know I can help him with my love. I tried and was doing ok. Obviously he needs to want that help but for now he does not. I feel so sorry for him. I am naturally a helpful and caring person and if I can't help the one I love then that's sad. He seems to associate his bad behaviour with me but also says it is him and not me..I have been so good to him. His text msgs say it all...he has thanked me so many times for helping him. And told me never to leave him and to help him as he is sick. But now he says he never meant all that. I should just leave him and he does not want to see me as it is hard for him. No other explanation. He used to feel that he can never communicate well but in fact he is! He just can't see that despite me telling him so many times! It's like talking to a brick wall. Will he ever let the good in him come through even for a little while so i could help him? Anyone with any experience like this? He really is not well but I don't think it is a chemical or inherited disorder. I think it is just a personality trait combined with how things were with him during childhood. Otherwise he would not have good periods. He would always have bad periods. He knew no limits as a child and he still acts like that. Has to do a lot of growing up and I want to help him just like I used to help people at my work and my friends and family. I know I can do it but he says I can't. I am not talking to him or contacting him. But I feel he will just carry on like this and never realise there is a girl out there who loves him so much she wants to use all her knowledge and experience along with his therapist to help him. If he had cancer or any other illness I would still want to help him because love does not see illnesses. Through sickness and in health. That's what my love is. He says he tried but is too weak to make his mind stay in this realtionship. He says I am stronger as I am older. I feel that all the strength he is using to stay away from me he could use to control his mind and be with me and get that help. But he does not seem to think so. He says it is hard for him too but somehow he can do it! If I were stronger than I would be able to do this too! Instead I miss him so much and at times it is unbearable! He does not realise family and friends are helping but not in the right way. I am a health professional and I know but he does not want to accept my help.