stoploss11 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Saw her only once at work too, I've been riding low and work is hectic. She still seems stressed and overwhelmed, we never really ended anything and all conversations were ambiguous and emotional about her painful few months, but like some of you told me she has to go through things on her own right now, or at least so she is choosing. Its hard, just letting it be right now. Moving forward is certain, moving on will have to come...
Leandro Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 good job on 1 week NC. I'm about to get to 1 month NC marker.
Ajax Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I also just hit the one month mark on NC. Six weeks ago tomorrow she left saying she needed to "figure herself out". I don't know if that's really true or she just lost interest in me and wanted to let me down easy. Same difference. She's gone. Keep up the positive attitude, even when things look bleak. It will be hard, but NC is the lesser of two evils. The other being limited contact and opening up the wounds every time. I wish you well on your recovery. I can't say it will be easy moving on since I'm not even close to being over mine. But have faith that it will happen.
Trovador Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 My case is nothing special but I am doing fine with LC, she is the one making contact while I'm gradually pulling away... this is no game or trick, I really want to move on but due to fact that we work in the same office NC hasn't been viable... But the times I tried going NC it was too hard and kept thinking about her all the time, now I am not obssesed with her and I don't mind if tomorrow she either call me or not... I am not advocating LC. I've just found that I am healing better and faster with it. I don't want her back and I don't want to be her friend. If anything, I am using her to get over her. Anyway, good job with that week. We all know how hard and, to certain extent, inhuman NC is. Call it a necessary evil but it works if you really want to get your life back.
lightning Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I agree Trovador. We don't work together and our paths would probably never again if we went NC. I'm healing better with LC. When I was NC I was waiting for him to make contact so I could ignore it... Was ridiculous, it did my head in. Now the lines of communcation are open but I never initiate contact, just plod along doing my own thing and not bothered if he contacts or not. I'm always short and aloof. No longer have the highs and lows of post breakup contact. Everyday things getting easier and clearer with a bad day/moment hear and there. All good. Continue with NC if it works for you.
chocolate_boy Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 (edited) I also just hit the one month mark on NC. Six weeks ago tomorrow she left saying she needed to "figure herself out". I don't know if that's really true or she just lost interest in me and wanted to let me down easy. Same difference. She's gone. Keep up the positive attitude, even when things look bleak. It will be hard, but NC is the lesser of two evils. The other being limited contact and opening up the wounds every time. I wish you well on your recovery. I can't say it will be easy moving on since I'm not even close to being over mine. But have faith that it will happen. Chin up dude, at least you can avoid her, I work with mine from time to time, had to last week for one afternoon, one on one, and she won't leave me alone now, comes over to "say hi" every time she passes, doing some rather heavy flirting too this week, but screw her, she had her chance. She even mentioned us having had sex, I was like "me and you?! Nooo, you must be confusing me with someone else" lol. Infact I flirted back, but I'm not gonna make a move on her again, I don't think her interest level is high enough to "miss me" yet, but if she reaches that point, ah well too late, revenge is kinda sweet. First time I'd seen her in around 4 weeks and oddly I found her much less attractive, I see her flaws now and she looked way less hot than I remembered, guess it's a sign I'm getting over her. Funnily though I did enjoy being around her, maybe I'll try the LJBF thing at some point. Edited October 2, 2010 by chocolate_boy
tornandmarried Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 i been going between LC and NC and it works for me...the LC helps me realize im getting sick of her and feels less like total abandonment and wondering about how shes doing and all that...but permanent NC will naturally come on its own in time, and when it does, ill care less
benB Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 I am also at 1 week of NC, I have tried this for months but she would always contact me at the 4 or 5 day mark but this time she hasn't. She seems to be closer to other guys now, we go to the same college so I will always see her or hear about her. But congrats on the week of NC, good luck to the both of us.
Author stoploss11 Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 Sometimes i wish we had a nasty breakup so i would know it was over. Instead now ive convinced myself so i can heal that it is over even with no closure. I wondered a few times if she were bipolar, but it just seems severely depressed and emotionally unstable. i wish she didnt try to sort it all on her own.
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