What happened?

[Amor23]

My girlfriend of 8 months, broke up with me on Monday. It was a devastating blow, however, but I knew it was coming.. Let me start out my story and how it got to where it is now.

 

Before we dated, I dated her good friend. However I actually liked her before her friend, but didn't peruse her because the girl I dated, had lied to me and told me she wasn't interested in me. But she really was. Her friend just wanted me to herself. And this was like 2 years before we finally hit it off.

 

When that ended she randomly facebooked me and I got her number and we started talking. It started with dinner, and I sang karaoke to her, and we were hooked on each other since then, up to now. We could not spend one day away from each other without going insane. It was the perfect relationship in my eyes, and I truly believed she would never leave me, even like she promised. She seemed perfect to me, always calling, always texting. When I had to leave she would whine, and hold me tight and say "please don't leave me, please don't" But I had to most of the time, due to the fact she still lives with her parents (shes 18) and they are controlling. She would tell me things like she never would leave me, and that it was "always and forever" etc. I even took her virginity around 2 months of dating, and she before hand, had morals of not giving it up before marriage. She even had a purity ring, you know one that says "true love waits" and on our 6 months she got it in-graved with "always and forever" and gave it to me on a necklace. That same day I cooked a spaghetti dinner and had rose petals spread all over my room, and we ate dinner by candle light, and made love after we ate, under the candle light. It was so prefect and everything seemed like it would never end. I even took her to my family reunion all the way in Maine. It was an incredible road trip and possibly the best time of my life. Where I took her to beaches and sunsets and arcades, took her for-wheeling, watching the stars at night in the hammock. And we slept together for 1 full week. Something we never really got to do a lot. Because she respected her parents.

 

Well I got into trouble with the law, and was going through very rough times. She was always there for me, but I kind of pushed her away and took her for granted, but she knew I loved her more than the world. It was just times I would snap and yell. Well I went to jail for two days, she dropped me off and picked me up. While in jail I wrote a note to her saying that I loved her with everything...Things would get better for me after all of this was over, and I would never stop loving her. Well when she picked me up from jail she got a text. I asked who it was and she said Ethan... I never knew of a Ethan so I asked for details. She said while I was in jail her and her two friends went out to eat, and they were messing around and somehow her friends ended up giving him her number, and he was texting her ever since. I didn't think much of it at first because things were still going very great. Well we got into a fight and she finally made me realized how I had been treating her. It turned around however and we were right back to where we always were. Well this Ethan kid kept texting her and I told her I didnt like it and she pulled the entire "He is new in town, has no friends. You should trust me" So I did. Well I started to notice she stopped calling as much I had to do most of the work to hang out and she even started saying she didn't have any money for gas to come see me. I confronted her about this and this is where it went down hill.. She started saying that the hole from when I treated her bad wasn't going away etc. etc. But we were going to try and fix things. I treated her the best I could, made her breakfast, dinner... etc. Gave her all my love and affection. Well she told me her and this kid, and her friend (the one that was with her the same night) were going to hang out.. I told her straight up that it was wrong and that I didn't agreed with it but since I loved her and trusted her she could do it IF she wanted too. Well she did, and didn't contact me ALL day. Her parents were out of town at the time, and I called them very frantic because her phone was off. And they couldn't contact her either. And this is when I asked her dad about this kid. He told me that she was texting him a lot, and that he said it was very wrong. And he even told me her dropped her off at the her house before! But she told me this was the first time they had EVER hung out.

 

Well I finally got a hold of her, she said her phone was "broke" but she magically got it to turn back on. Well I went over to talk to her to confront her about this, and she told me that she didn't want to tell me because she thought I would "explode" I asked why did they hang out and she said he was at her friends house already and figured he was leaving so he could drop her off because it was right around the corner.

 

Well I gave in and believed her and just wanted to fix things. We hung out the rest of the week. All day Saturday and Sunday. But I could tell things were off, she wasn't kissing me and much, not hugging on me as much, saying I love you.. etc. I confronted her again about the situation and she said the space just wasn't going away and she was tired of hurting me. She dumped me the next day. I looked her in the eyes and told her. LOOK dont lie to me, is it because of this guy or any other guy and she looked me directly in the eyes and said no...

 

Well I didnt make any move to talk to her.. She called me that night, and even posted a status on facebook saying "lonely" she called the next morning, the next night and the next morning... Like we were still together. And she led me to believe we would get back together. And I kept answering the calls. She even kept all out pictures up on facebook, and even in her info where I wrote something. "I hacked this just to say I love you" she kept. But yet, she didn't want to be with me and wanted me to "move on" Well I couldn't take it anymore last night she texted me saying hey and I ignored her, then she texted me again, saying goodnight, and I ignored her, then she called me two times, and I picked up the second time. She sounded upset and I asked what was wrong as she just said she was in a weird mood.. I told her I had to take a shower so i ended the conversation.

 

So I deleted all of our pictures and everything. Posted a new picture of me and a girl commented on it say "wow your hot." Then a lot of my friends were telling me its gonna be okay. She doesnt deserve you... And even MY X her old friend commented on my facebook saying that.

 

THIS morning she flipped saying "i cant believe you deleted the pictures" "I see your completely done with me, im going to delete all the pictures. Your acting like I never existed, **** it." "Im gonna get guys to comment on my pictures saying im hot..." etc.

 

All I said was to call me if she wanted to talk about it. She did, and it was the same conversation. How she don't think we will ever be together again, and how she is gonna let me go...But yet she wants to hang out one last time...?

 

Im so confused as to what is going on... Im so heart broken, and I cant stand it. I have gone NC but she keep re-initiating it. I ask her why she calls me and she says "I dont want you to forget about me, and stuff like I want to know your ok.." But she sounds so horrible when she calls like she is really upset.

 

I sent her a text to ask about our job.. Yes we work in the same place. No response. Then I called her she didn't pick up...Now she is ignoring me.. Oh and by the way her and her friend are hanging out with that guy again tonight...

 

What do I do? I love this girl more than the world, and I know it was only 8 months but I revolved my life around her and I can honestly say I don't have much. Is it done...? She has known this guy for about 2 weeks.

Edited October 2, 2010 by Amor23