Should i aid a friend of my ex, knowing it will aid the ex

[femaletroubles]

apparently you can't use the word help in a title...so aid=help

 

Ok, so long story short, ex was cheating on me, i broke it off. She shows up at my apartment with THE guy, she lost her temper and got violent. I called the cops, they arrested and charged her for domestic violence. (was NOT my intention to get her arrested, only wanted them there to keep the peace, so no one got hurt, but apparently the state has a no tolerance policy, in hind sight, if i had known she would be arrested i never would have called)

 

Anyway, so she has a friend, who is really her friend, not mine, but i knew her well while i was dating the ex. She sent me an email asking me to share my resources (notes, etc stuff to help with school).

 

Now should i help her? Knowing that it will certainly be given to the ex? Should i pre-empt by emailing stuff to her and the ex? (have not spoken to/emailed/texted the ex since the day that happened)

 

Thoughts?

[durkadurka]

This is a bad idea.

[femaletroubles]

This is a bad idea.

 

as in don't help her?

 

It gets complicated, because I was held back a year (because of all the stress i couldn't focus on my last examination) and now this girl (ex's bffl) has been assigned to me as my Big sister (grad school, we're all assigned an upper classman to go to if we have trouble--even though more often than not they're worthless and don't help)

[carhill]

Presuming this 'big sister' can't materially affect the outcome of your education, I'd politely decline to share research/assessment/reading notes and encourage her to use her experience as an upperclassperson to achieve her goals without your help. I'd also, simultaneously, ask to be assigned another big sister due to personal conflict of interest.