XMizer Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 My gf of four months broke up with me two weeks ago, started going NC since last week. She broke up with me not because she doesn't love me but she has a hard time dealing with my depression, which I assume is understandable. I still love her and want her back but I respect her need for time and space. Anyway, she suddenly calls me yesterday. At first we had a very casual conversation about what we're doing. And after talking for a while, I told her I missed her. I didn't go all mopey about it (I even made some jokes here and there) but I don't know if I messed up by telling her that. I asked her if she still loved me and she said yes but she's still unsure about the future of our relationship (also being in an LDR right now is a bit hard.) I really wanted to tell her how I still feel about her but I don't know if telling her how I still felt was a step closer in getting her back.
whatadeer26 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 My advice to you is....... set a time of NC with your ex. She has to figure this out on her own. Tell her that you care for her but inorder for her to truly understand the future of your relationship you two must not talk for a while. Set a time, like a month, of not contacting each other. At the end of the time period you two should talk about how and if you want to continue.
DustySaltus Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Xmizer, if you're not happy with yourself you cannot be happy with anyone else. You need to get to the root of your problems and fix those. Have you been seeing someone about this? Focus on yourself and what you need to be happy OUTSIDE of this relationship. Once you figure yourself out, you'll be on track to happy, healthier relationships.
Author XMizer Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 You are right Dusty, I have to like myself first. When I was depressed, it had nothing to do with her. She did nothing wrong and I wasn't looking towards her for happiness. I guess I was depressed because I was stressed over my situation because I just graduated from school and I'm having a hard time finding a job, paying the rent, etc. All that stress was not something my girlfriend had to experience. But anyway, most of my problems still remain but I have a better attitude and outlook about my future now. And I honestly want my girlfriend back. I still don't expect her to make me happy or solve any of my problems but I still would like it she was by my side...
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