Feeling lost and hurt

[Confused by Love]

Hey all, this is a weird situation, so I wasn't quite sure which forum to post this in specifically. I'll try to keep it short.

 

Well, I have a fiance who I love dearly. The thing is, she has a kid with a previous relationship. Well, this guy cheated on her, abused her physically and mentally, and is basically a sociopath, always trying to control, manipulate, and use. He has duped her many times over the years into thinking he changed. She ran back to him all the way up until we met. From the moment we met, she began to hate him because she began to love me more and see that not all guys are like that.

 

 

This guy has seen his son maybe 2 times since the kid was born, it's been me and my fiance who is with the kid everyday. Well, every now and then he'll call and try to start stuff or see if he can get her back. She has consistently told him that there is no chance of them getting back together, and that she is with me, and he just has to accept life is hard in that regard.

 

Well, once again he is claiming to have changed, and she has wanted to be friends with him for a while because she wants him to see his son. She has said she doesn't ever want to be more than friends to him both behind my back and to my face, I've heard and seen her tell him that very clearly. Well, she is going over there today with her son and it worries me because I am scared to death he will try to manipulate her or get her back.

 

She says she's prepared for any scenario and will shoot him down. But it doesn't stop me from being scared. I wish they didn't have a son together, this wouldn't be an issue.

 

Can anyone lend any advice? I hardly slept last night. I feel anxious, confused, fearful, and alone, even though she hasn't really given me a specific reason to, per se. I know she's going to get shot down again though when he shows his true side.

 

I tried talking to him last night and he was very aggressive, even though I remained neutral/friendly. I said both my fiance n me believe it's best we all be friends for her sons sake. He started saying if he saw me, it would probably end in a physical fight. (He's been in many of those, many).

Edited October 1, 2010 by Confused by Love