Swindler Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 (edited) hi Well i was near the registrar office at the university waiting to talk to the accounting manager, there was also a very hot girl standing there, we were alone, so i was standing at the window, then she came and stand right near me, but i didnt take any steps and didnt talk to her :S. Well the next day i was at the university lounge, and suddenly she came from a long distance and asked me where she can find the dean office, eventhough there was many other students to ask, she only came and asked me, i asked her what she wanna do there, and told her where she can find the dean. Well i was so fool and didnt try to take her there and know more about her on my way there, so i thought the next time i will see her i will approach her for sure. Also while i was walking near her class my friend told me that she was staring at me. Well today i was sitting, and she walked in front of me but didnt even look at me, so i didnt bother to talk to her, and when she came back, i looked her in the eyes, but she didnt look, i said what a beautiful girl, but she kept walking, dont know if she heard me or not. i thought maybe she is not interested and i didnt want to get rejected :S. Do you think she likes me ? Do you think she lost interest because i didnt try to show her any sign that i like her ? Please give me some tips about approaching her, best way to do it, and how should i be sure that she likes me, i dont want to make any mistakes. Btw she is new to the university and she doesnt have any friends, so there is no friends i can ask about her Edited October 1, 2010 by Swindler
Tripp1 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Hey buddy, You got scared of the approach. Happens to me all the time. You just have to PULL THE TRIGGER AND DO IT. There's not much advice to be given here. The only thing anyone can really do is literally physically push you to go talk to her. Here's the absolute best thing you can say to her next time you see her. There's no tricks, just say something along these lines: "Hey I keep seeing you around campus but I never got your name, I'm (your name here)." Then continue to talk about anything you want, literally. If she's new? What classes she's taking, etc. That's it. That simple. She will not think you're weird AT ALL. In fact to answer you're other questions she probably likes you. The only reason why she hasn't been giving you the time of day nor a look is because she probably thinks you don't like her! You haven't made any moves, so she doesn't know what to do at this point. But I don't think it's over yet. Just next time DO IT! Good luck my man Tripp
Author Swindler Posted October 2, 2010 Author Posted October 2, 2010 Will give it a shot on monday, hopefully nobody has approached her yet.
Tripp1 Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Don't look at it like that. That's very pessimistic. The thing you should be thinking is, "Who cares if anyone has approached her yet, because I am going to approach her, she already knows who I am, and I'm the ****ing man!" That's what you should be thinking. Get some confidence in there and remember that just because someone else approached her doesn't mean they are going to necessarily be the "winner" or get her. Plus I really believe she is already into you. I dunno if you can PM or send messages to one another on this site, but if you can, let me know Monday how it went. Tripp
Feelin Frisky Posted October 2, 2010 Posted October 2, 2010 Man, you blew it. Now you're stuck with damage control to see if you can undo your density. I don't know if there's hope but I urge that you take a lesson from this: this is YOUR TIME and you must not punt when opportunitiy knocks--it may never come again and you'll kick yourself in the ass forever after. When an attractive female--especially one who has given you a cue before--goes out of her way to ask you for directions, she ain't asking for directions. Always--and I mean always--tell her you were just heading that way and ask to show her where it's at. Then get her talking on the way. If you're still in school you probably still have the best shot to connect with a female in your age range. Don't be dense.
Author Swindler Posted October 3, 2010 Author Posted October 3, 2010 Hell no :|, do you mean its not possible to get another chance, honestly maybe it was for my good so i wont appear so clingy. Btw, she strated looking at me from the class atfer the second approach from her. Anyway i will give it a shot on monday, whatever happens. And tomorow i will post what happens.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 Hell no :|, do you mean its not possible to get another chance, honestly maybe it was for my good so i wont appear so clingy. Btw, she strated looking at me from the class atfer the second approach from her. Anyway i will give it a shot on monday, whatever happens. And tomorow i will post what happens. No, of course it's not impossible. But you are dealing with damage control because you weren't alert. My advice was simply to make sure to learn from this and don't think too much when opportunity knocks--just ACT. Girls do feel rejected when you don't react they way they hope. Good luck with this one--you made her sound hot and hot for you. The coals may not be out.
Seamless74 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 just goes to show that girls I believe (even beautiful ones) feel rejection as much or more than us guys... Only difference is we DONT know when were rejecting them.... Thats why im trying desperately to get better at the cold approach not only for my own selfish desires but its getting to the point where im tired of attractive women that go out on a limb (although it be in their own passive almost imperceptible way) thinking i rejected them instead of taking the time to pause and appreciate their individual selves.... If you start realizing all the oppurtunities that are around you and the subtle cues you have to tune into its kinda overwhelming...Needless to say a trip to anywhere bookstore, grocery, starbucks, target, mall .... is never the same again... Those places are like just really lame and boring singles bars where most of the people there arent single My personal challenge to both you and myself honestly is to take time to talk to anyone who interests you; but even more specifically any female or i mean any female who you find interesting that gives you any type of signal you must respond without hesitation... good luck
Tripp1 Posted October 3, 2010 Posted October 3, 2010 My advice was simply to make sure to learn from this and don't think too much when opportunity knocks--just ACT. Girls do feel rejected when you don't react they way they hope. Well said. Very true. Swindler, next time, don't think, just do.
Author Swindler Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 well, since the last time, i didnt see her, and it has been 3 weeks, i only see her from the window while she is in her class, well a week ago i tried to add her on facebook, but she still didnt respond to my request, she didnt accept or ignore me yet. Untill she still stares at me from the window, and i stare at her, for 20 or 30 seconds.I never had the chance to see her outside the class. What do think is happening to here?
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