Sonolumino Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I've been on a some dates with a few girls but I feel nothing toward them. I'm not happy or sad to meet them, just indifferent. I have no urge to try at all. By "try" I mean make conversation, take an even superficial interest in them, etc.. I don't feel like myself on the date, just a numb shell of a person. This isn't just confined to dating. I literally don't care about much of anything. I do my work diligently, but there's no real will to do it; I only do it because I have to. I don't miss my ex, nor do I want her back, and I don't think about her much anymore. If I do think of her there are no emotions involved with it at all; I almost think of her out of habit. I sort of am welcoming this (at least it's not pain), but granted it is very weird. I want to feel something toward these girls I go on dates on and to my work again but I just don't. Has anyone else gone through this? How long does it last? Have I become comfortably numb?
charliecharlie Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I recognize this feeling of indifference very much. Tell us a little more about your story. How long has it been since the break up? Maybe it's just a matter of giving it some more time. How long depends on how much pain you have been dealing with, how heartbroke you have felt. Maybe you've started pulling up a wall to prevent yourself from more disappointment? Or maybe you have stopped allowing yourself to enjoy anything? Don't be too hard on yourself, allow yourself to be happy about small things and open yourself up to new experiences. I know how you feel, I'm dealing with it myself. It's been 1,5 month since the break up and I'm starting to feel passionate about some areas in my life again, but there's still this random feeling of indifference. My heart hasn't healed completely yet. I don't want my ex back but I still feel hurt. But I kick my own butt and force myself to go out there and start feeling joy, and give other people a chance. There's so much to enjoy in life, don't let those things pass you by because of what someone did to you. Dust yourself off and move on with your head up high.
Author Sonolumino Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 It's been 2 months from a 4 year relationship. Definitely had a lot of heartbreak and heartache, and she has had a new boyfriend too. The thing is though I don't want her back and I don't miss her. And I'm glad you understand. It's not like I don't WANT to go out and do new things, just I think I'd feel the same if I stayed in my room all day. My routine seems empty, but there's no real emotion attached to it. I feel like I'm just going through the motions. I'm not sad or happy about it. This is definitely a weird limbo kind of place. I do enjoy some hobbies I still have, but then the numbness creeps right back up on me. How do I overcome it?
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