lizzy22w Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 So my ex is obviously mad at me since I told him I was going out on dates with someone else. He won't talk to me completely. I just texted him goodnight, and that I hope he was doing ok, sweet dreams...and all he said was,"thanks". Should I call him, or should I just leave it?
skydiveaddict Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Well, since you are dating someone else, why bother?
Trovador Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I gather you dumped him and if you told him you were dating I don´t know how you expect him to jump with joy... If my ex told me something like that it would be the last straw and I am pretty sure she never would hear of me...
collegeguy_24 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I gather you dumped him and if you told him you were dating I don´t know how you expect him to jump with joy... If my ex told me something like that it would be the last straw and I am pretty sure she never would hear of me... I am right there, right now. I understand your exes pain if you were the one to dump him. Personally, I think you should call him. If I were in his shoes, I would prefer you call me and ask to meet in person to discuss things, and soon not wait a couple weeks. But thats just my humble opinion.
durkadurka Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 (edited) I am right there, right now. I understand your exes pain if you were the one to dump him. Personally, I think you should call him. If I were in his shoes, I would prefer you call me and ask to meet in person to discuss things, and soon not wait a couple weeks. But thats just my humble opinion. What is there to discuss? I'm also asking the original poster this question. I'm curious as to what she'd want to talk to her ex about. Likewise, I'm in that exact same position. Edited October 1, 2010 by durkadurka
lsb Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 if you are going on dates - i would say leave the guy alone. you already made your choice. own it.
Author lizzy22w Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 no. he dumped me. we have been on and off for the past year. He would date other girls, and I would be there for him, but when he tells me that he wants me to go out on a date with someone else, then he gets mad. I was just going out on dates to see if I could feel something for someone else (which is what he wanted), and of course I didn't. Now he is mad at me, and I don't get it.
durkadurka Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 no. he dumped me. we have been on and off for the past year. He would date other girls, and I would be there for him, but when he tells me that he wants me to go out on a date with someone else, then he gets mad. I was just going out on dates to see if I could feel something for someone else (which is what he wanted), and of course I didn't. Now he is mad at me, and I don't get it. Sounds like a really messed up situation to me. I wouldn't call him, nothing good can come out of it as it strikes me that neither of you are mature enough to deal with the situation. Instead you've let it spiral out of control into this mess.
collegeguy_24 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 If he dumped you, then he has no right to be angry at you. He made his choice, he has to live with it. To me, it sounds like he is trying to control you, possibly keep you as a back up or a booty call if his own life doesn't wok out. As for me, thats just how my mentality works, I don't get it either, it just does.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 My ex, dumped me gave me signs that she wants me to let go and move on, so I was doing just that. I found out she got just as angry as your ex. I was all confused as now she doesn't want me to move on but also doesn't want to be with me? It's like an ego thing. Truth is I am finding it awfully hard to move on let alone live life. Sure been on dates, hung around with friends and family but I'm still bored, and missing my ex who now wants nothing to do with me since I gave her a no contact email asking her not to contact me unless she wants to reconcile and I won't contact her unless I want to be friends. I'm going on 2 months since break up and 1 month since no contact began. Basically your ex is as self centered as mine, Ie it's ok for them to move on but not for us? Don't take it as a sign he wants you back it will only blow up and make it worse.
j0sh Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Trust me calling is a bad idea! Right now neither of you have a level head and are thinking with pure emotions. Do you both a favor and give it some time to collect a level head. If you go running back to your ex, chances are something that one of you doesn't mean is gonna get said.
Author lizzy22w Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 If he dumped you, then he has no right to be angry at you. He made his choice, he has to live with it. To me, it sounds like he is trying to control you, possibly keep you as a back up or a booty call if his own life doesn't wok out. As for me, thats just how my mentality works, I don't get it either, it just does. I thought about this too, since he has kept me on the sideline for so long. he would always say he was starting to get feelings for me again, and would immediately lose them when we got into a tiff. maybe it is different for a guy, but when I like someone, I might disagree with something, but I try to get past it and continue the relationship. My ex, dumped me gave me signs that she wants me to let go and move on, so I was doing just that. I found out she got just as angry as your ex. I was all confused as now she doesn't want me to move on but also doesn't want to be with me? It's like an ego thing. Truth is I am finding it awfully hard to move on let alone live life. Sure been on dates, hung around with friends and family but I'm still bored, and missing my ex who now wants nothing to do with me since I gave her a no contact email asking her not to contact me unless she wants to reconcile and I won't contact her unless I want to be friends. I'm going on 2 months since break up and 1 month since no contact began. Basically your ex is as self centered as mine, Ie it's ok for them to move on but not for us? Don't take it as a sign he wants you back it will only blow up and make it worse. I don't understand it either. Especially when he would always tell me how he only wanted to see me happy, and prayed for my happiness everyday (he even said this the same night that he freaked out on me about me dating someone else). A friend told me this today, and while it is harsh...it puts things into perspective. He told me," He just wasn't into you the way you were with him. If he was, he would be knocking down your door to get your back. Ego has nothing to do with it. When a person wants to be with someone, then they are going to jump hurdles, if they must, to get them back. Move on." Makes sense. Just hard to let things go after waiting for someone for a year. :/ Trust me calling is a bad idea! Right now neither of you have a level head and are thinking with pure emotions. Do you both a favor and give it some time to collect a level head. If you go running back to your ex, chances are something that one of you doesn't mean is gonna get said. very true.
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