Ae117971 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I got engaged since i was 18 yrs old and our families are very old fashioned. My parents would never accept me if we broke up. Just waiting to finish college which is next year and have the wedding. when i first moved in with him he was a jerk we fought all the time and i mean all the time and he was abusive physically and mentally and he knew exactly what to say to hurt me sometimes i would wish he would just hit me instead of say the things he said. When it would come to sex we would only have sex once a week and even when i would dress up for him in sexy outfits he would deny me and say he was tired but never too tired to go out with his co workers and it made me feel so ugly and that i wasnt good enough with me and kept asking what is wrong with me. So at work there was this guy that made me feel really good about my self and we ended up having sex. At first to tell you the truth i didnt feel bad at all because my fiance was so mean to me but than something happened i dont know what but he changed and he started being really nice and now we are good its been a yr and months since i cheated on him and i know if i ever told him he would leave me in a heartbeat and i love him so much i dont know what to do i feel so guilty and i cant imagine if he finds out which i dont think he would. But if someone says something to him should i deny everything no one knows that is close to me only that person and another girl which i dont keep contact with any of them and i would never do anything like this to him and i dont think he has ever cheated on me but you never know. Our first year was horrible though and its not like i can leave him whenever i wanted but i am glad i didnt because now things couldnt be better i mean the sex still he denies me a lot of times and we are young he is 30 and me 25 but before we moved in together we always had crazy sex and all the time and i am still the same as i was when he met me. should i just not say anything to him ever and if he ever asks just deny the whole thing?
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Our first year was horrible though and its not like i can leave him whenever i wanted but i am glad i didnt because now things couldnt be better i mean the sex still he denies me a lot of times and we are young he is 30 and me 25 but before we moved in together we always had crazy sex and all the time and i am still the same as i was when he met me. should i just not say anything to him ever and if he ever asks just deny the whole thing? First... You should not marry someone who has a history of physically abusing you! Second... You can't allow him to marry you without telling him the truth. It's not right to trick him into marriage. At some point your going to have to be honest with him. If you love each other it will work out.
PegNosePete Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 You've been engaged for 7 years? You need to tell him what you did. And then you need to split up, and get on with your life. You say your parents wouldn't accept if you split up, how would they react if you got divorced in 5 years time? Because that is what will happen if you marry this guy.
Maggotface Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I'm sure your parents would be a lot less upset if you broke up with your boyfriend then if you divorced your husband. Would you want your boyfriend keeping this from you?
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