reknown29 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I have a trip coming up that was suppose to be with my ex. She dumped me and is not going. I wont get into that... She went as far as booking another trip on the same dates. It seems that it would be depressing to go alone given that throughout the year we were so excited to go together. The trip is to Paris and Rome, it cant be cancelled. Also, it doesn't help that she wants me to go alone. This kinda makes me not want to go. What would you do?
Billie The Puppet Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Are you kidding I'd go, triggers will be triggers you can not not go on the account it was something you planned with your ex. You stay back there will still be triggers plus money wasted making the situation worse. Go have fun maybe you'll meet someone else. If you get access to her tickets take a friend else go solo. (I'm Italian-Canadian) and would love to go to Italy BTW it was planned with my ex too only not purchased and I am still going to go without her.
Author reknown29 Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 I only have one ticket. the other cant be transferred... So yes I would have to go alone. I really loved this girl. Planned on marrying her. There are heavy emotions involved. I feel if I walk around by myself I am going to become deeply depressed. Where here I have friends who pull me out of it. Im confused. Cant decide what to do.
Green Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I have a trip coming up that was suppose to be with my ex. She dumped me and is not going. I wont get into that... She went as far as booking another trip on the same dates. It seems that it would be depressing to go alone given that throughout the year we were so excited to go together. The trip is to Paris and Rome, it cant be cancelled. Also, it doesn't help that she wants me to go alone. This kinda makes me not want to go. What would you do? Well... how much money did u spend on the ticket... or did ur parents pay? oh and how many days and how much do you expect to spend on hotels and food ect.... (that money can still be saved I'm guessing) I think it could be fun or suck to go... depends on ur mind set
Trojan John Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 You should definitely come to Europe. The weather may not be spectacular right now, but there will be more than enough to keep you engaged. Plus, lots of beautiful women in Paris and Rome to help you forget. If you are starving for company, stay at a hostel. The people tend to be very friendly.
denise_xo Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I have a trip coming up that was suppose to be with my ex. She dumped me and is not going. I wont get into that... She went as far as booking another trip on the same dates. It seems that it would be depressing to go alone given that throughout the year we were so excited to go together. The trip is to Paris and Rome, it cant be cancelled. Also, it doesn't help that she wants me to go alone. This kinda makes me not want to go. What would you do? Hey reknown, we welcome you to Europe Paris and Rome are both really beautiful. I say go and try to enjoy yourself. John's advice about staying in a hostel is good. You can also do couch surfing (google it) - that way you can either stay with a local, or you can meet up with a local for coffee just to have a chat and get some tips on what's happening in town. Make sure you email her lots of pictures of you with gorgeous Italian women afterwards
Kamille Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 You are under no obligation to go on that trip. Money is just money and your ex-girlfriend no longer gets a say on what you do with your life. Now, the question is: what do you want to do? You will surely have moments when you think about her while on this trip, but you will also have moments when you're too busy navigating foreign cities, being blown away by cultural differences and meeting new people. The idea of staying at hostals is fantastic. All you have to do is hang out in common areas and you will meet a bunch of new people. I was wondering, you say you can't get a refund for the trip, but could you possibly change the destinations so that this turns into a trip you planned on your own?
Green Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 You should definitely come to Europe. The weather may not be spectacular right now, but there will be more than enough to keep you engaged. Plus, lots of beautiful women in Paris and Rome to help you forget. If you are starving for company, stay at a hostel. The people tend to be very friendly. Hey reknown, we welcome you to Europe Paris and Rome are both really beautiful. I say go and try to enjoy yourself. John's advice about staying in a hostel is good. You can also do couch surfing (google it) - that way you can either stay with a local, or you can meet up with a local for coffee just to have a chat and get some tips on what's happening in town. Make sure you email her lots of pictures of you with gorgeous Italian women afterwards Hostels just seem like a bad gross idea. Couch surfing seems like A REALLY BAD idea You are under no obligation to go on that trip. Money is just money and your ex-girlfriend no longer gets a say on what you do with your life. Now, the question is: what do you want to do? You will surely have moments when you think about her while on this trip, but you will also have moments when you're too busy navigating foreign cities, being blown away by cultural differences and meeting new people. The idea of staying at hostals is fantastic. All you have to do is hang out in common areas and you will meet a bunch of new people. I was wondering, you say you can't get a refund for the trip, but could you possibly change the destinations so that this turns into a trip you planned on your own? When ever I go traveling I only like staying at hotels. Seriously people are easy to meet especialy as a man.
2sure Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Rome is comfortable and easy to do alone. Sign up for an evening cooking class just about anywhere and you will have fun, meet people. Paris on the other hand, I also would find depressing to be alone in. You might consider that somewhere like the 18th arrondissement of montmartre is more of a village right in the city and as such the locals are very friendly, it has a much warmer atmosphere and after a day of touring the city proper its a fun place to hang out in the evening.
Trojan John Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Hostels just seem like a bad gross idea. Couch surfing seems like A REALLY BAD idea If you've never tried, how would you know? Modern hostels are quite clean and full of travelers who like spending time with and meeting other travelers. I have a couple of friends who do and host couch surfing, which can be good, bad and everything in between. But you get what you pay for.
Cee Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I'd go on the trip alone. I'd suggest checking the Lonely Planet forums for travel ideas. http://www.lonelyplanet.com/thorntree/index.jspa They have some stuff on the site for women traveling alone. I'm not saying you are a girl, but they may have some tips for solo travel. Recently on FB, I asked what were the best places for me to go by myself. Rome was suggested repeatedly. I think it's interesting how people on this thread have different travel styles and preferences. I am both a hotel & couch surfing gal. I signed up to be a couch surfing host recently, but I'm not an active host yet. The application process is arduous.
Author reknown29 Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 so i think i am going to go. i metnioned it to her and she seemed to get upset at the fact that i was going. maybe a little jealousy? im going on a trip to re discover myself... unfortunately it is the most romantic place on earth that i am going to. i may have to cry to loveshack a few times while im there but i think i may be better off going in the long run. just to see the culture if nothing else.
ocn307 Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 my friend went on two bus tours through europe. the first he had a good time and met lots of women. the next he met his wife. GO! Rome and Paris are both great places, I've been to both cities. You need to find a group where you'd be around other travelers, and hopefully meet some new women and have fun. I'd say go.
denise_xo Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 so i think i am going to go. i metnioned it to her and she seemed to get upset at the fact that i was going. maybe a little jealousy? im going on a trip to re discover myself... unfortunately it is the most romantic place on earth that i am going to. i may have to cry to loveshack a few times while im there but i think i may be better off going in the long run. just to see the culture if nothing else. Great, good for you. Try to enjoy and keep us posted.
Author reknown29 Posted October 7, 2010 Author Posted October 7, 2010 at first, as soon as i stepped out of the subway i was very upset... theres a reason why romance and paris go together quite often... this place is unbelievable. im a softy when it comes to romance and it was a painful walk to my hotel. i had tears under my glasses wondering how amazing it would have been to have her here, or anyone semi special for that matter. on second thought though, i realize that b!@#$ doesnt deserve this. Im glad she doesnt get to see this place. im glad she wasted money on a ticket and was too dumb to know what she would be missing. its not like were not still sleeping together, cause we have been... im refinding love for myself here and having a trip of solitude and introspection. im getting over her and keeping this experience for myself. as someone said in another post. would you really want that woman being the mother of your children. the answer is a definite NO. the fact that i have been going through an excrutiating broken heart, have been so low that i need to talk to therapists, post on forums, and that she cant see and appreciate how ive felt for her. why give a person who doesnt see you, all that you could possibly give. and put up with her continuing to lead me on while other dudes are in her life. im working on my french pickup lines as we speak...
Cee Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 Bravo! Solo travel is a great way to mend a broken heart. The world is filled with interesting people and opportunities for adventure. I'm so glad you decided to go to Paris. Enjoy.
denise_xo Posted October 7, 2010 Posted October 7, 2010 at first, as soon as i stepped out of the subway i was very upset... theres a reason why romance and paris go together quite often... this place is unbelievable. im a softy when it comes to romance and it was a painful walk to my hotel. i had tears under my glasses wondering how amazing it would have been to have her here, or anyone semi special for that matter. on second thought though, i realize that b!@#$ doesnt deserve this. Im glad she doesnt get to see this place. im glad she wasted money on a ticket and was too dumb to know what she would be missing. its not like were not still sleeping together, cause we have been... im refinding love for myself here and having a trip of solitude and introspection. im getting over her and keeping this experience for myself. as someone said in another post. would you really want that woman being the mother of your children. the answer is a definite NO. the fact that i have been going through an excrutiating broken heart, have been so low that i need to talk to therapists, post on forums, and that she cant see and appreciate how ive felt for her. why give a person who doesnt see you, all that you could possibly give. and put up with her continuing to lead me on while other dudes are in her life. im working on my french pickup lines as we speak... Excellent keep us posted.
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