cb9343 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 well i got my key back and a three page letter telling me some of my faults which i know(hard trusting) he also proceeded tell me how messed up he feels and lost. he feels as if he has nothing to offer to me.. I have a child, house and a great career and he has none of this and thats why he left me. he decided at 30 to join the reserves and is leaving for 6 months.. he feels bad making me wait and says he has nothing to offer me and thats why he broke up with me.. he is down in the dumps .. he leaves in a month.. i texted him this morning to let him know i was thinking of him and asked him if he needed anything i am here.. i did not want to be pushy since he seems lost in life and its more about him than me.. i have not heard from him all day.. was i stupid for putting myself out there.. I just want him to know i care no matter what yet i dont want to be pushy .. i am so in love with him and i know he loves me.. money does not mean anything he was so amazing to me i got scared at times and i think thats why he pulled away.. what do you think i could do at this point?
Angel1111 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I'm sorry that you're both hurting so much. I sounds like he's got a lot of things to work out for himself. If he's intimidated by your salary or career, then there's not much you can do about that. As far as what you can do now - I know this is tough, but don't underestimate the power of silence, especially where men are concerned. He needs to disappear and be left to think on his own. He may conclude that it's not worth losing you after all. I don't think there was anything wrong with the text you sent. It got your point across and now he can go away knowing that you still love him. That's a good message to send. Now just sit back and let him do what he needs to do. Believe me, if he really wants to be with you, distance and silence won't keep him from realizing that. I wish you the best but don't ever feel like you have to apologize for being successful.
Author cb9343 Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 thank you so much for the kind and helpful words... it means alot and i will continue with NC.. i need to not only for me but my son.. i just hope he finds his way and even his way back with us.. we adore him..
PegNosePete Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I would recommend changing the locks, he may have made a copy of the key. It's worth a few bucks for total security.
Angel1111 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 thank you so much for the kind and helpful words... it means alot and i will continue with NC.. i need to not only for me but my son.. i just hope he finds his way and even his way back with us.. we adore him.. I'm sure you both do adore him and I'm sure he's a good man, but you do need to think about how this issue will be resolved if the two of you do get back together again. Because if it's always going to be a sticking point, you'll still have a major problem. He needs to either get over it, or you need to find a more mature man. A successful woman doesn't need a man around who's going to be intimidated by her success. There are plenty of men out there who would appreciate the fact that you have your act together.
Author cb9343 Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 yeah i hope he just gains some respect and confidence whne he goes to bootcamp and then MP training.. I am just going to live my life and take care of my son and i.. I am happy in general i just miss my best friend.. We had so much fun together.. I have only been in love like this one other time. I was the dumper in that relationship.. i just know true love is hard to come by.. it's in gods hands thought.....
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