Trovador Posted October 4, 2010 Posted October 4, 2010 Yep, either they are interested or not... If they are not, it doesn't matter if you call or not... If they are, it doesn't matter either... My motto these days is "There is nothing on the other side" that I took as the title for a short story I'm writing...gotta keep busy...
Author durkadurka Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Yep, either they are interested or not... If they are not, it doesn't matter if you call or not... If they are, it doesn't matter either... My motto these days is "There is nothing on the other side" that I took as the title for a short story I'm writing...gotta keep busy... Had a bit of an epiphany today, and realized that she was only prepared to sacrifice for this relationship to the point where it still benefited her. She stayed, but asked that I changed jobs at the expense of school, when she wanted to move (couldn't move until school was done). Everything was done to benefit her, but she wouldn't do anything to make herself happy. I resent the woman so much, I wonder what the hell she could possibly want.
Trovador Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Of course, my friends, those things are easy to say with the benefit of hindsight... If we only realized all those red flags in front of us... Like my ex never asking for my folks, for example... in fact, she really doesn´t know the name of my siblings or parents, while I know the name of most of her relatives, including her grandparents and uncles and her dogs (not that the dogs are her relatives ha ha)... She said it wasn´t indifference but ... what was its name... ah, yes, "protection" ...
Allisha Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Had a bit of an epiphany today, and realized that she was only prepared to sacrifice for this relationship to the point where it still benefited her. She stayed, but asked that I changed jobs at the expense of school, when she wanted to move (couldn't move until school was done). Everything was done to benefit her, but she wouldn't do anything to make herself happy. I resent the woman so much, I wonder what the hell she could possibly want. Err...hold on a second? What the hell SHE could possibly want? YOU text her.
Angel1111 Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 Err...hold on a second? What the hell SHE could possibly want? YOU text her. I was just thinking the same thing.
Author durkadurka Posted October 5, 2010 Author Posted October 5, 2010 Err...hold on a second? What the hell SHE could possibly want? YOU text her. I texted her something that didn't require a response. She called soon after, I ignored it, I was busy moving. The following day, I called her back, she didn't pick up. She texted me later on that night saying that she was sorry she missed my call, and that she really would have liked to talk to me. I agreed that it was too bad she missed my call. She followed up by saying she had been thinking, and that there was some stuff she would like to say. I suggested she call me back then. Since then, it's been a cat and mouse game. She said she no longer has a L/D plan for her cell phone despite the fact she's called me from it 3 times in the last 2 weeks. So I wrapped it up by saying that it's too bad she's too busy, but it's her loss and that when I call it doesn't affect her rate plan. Haven't heard from her since.
Allisha Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 That's not really the point. You're saying it's okay for you to text her aslong as what you say doesn't require a response? Doesn't work like that. I can't believe you're sitting there bellyaching about how much you hate her & what she wants to say after you contact her first.
Author durkadurka Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 That's not really the point. You're saying it's okay for you to text her aslong as what you say doesn't require a response? Doesn't work like that. I can't believe you're sitting there bellyaching about how much you hate her & what she wants to say after you contact her first. No I'm curious as to why, when she has something to say, she isn't following up? Maybe you ladies have your mind wired differently than we do. But usually when you tell someone you have something to say, you follow up.
Allisha Posted October 6, 2010 Posted October 6, 2010 No I'm curious as to why, when she has something to say, she isn't following up? Maybe you ladies have your mind wired differently than we do. But usually when you tell someone you have something to say, you follow up. Perhaps. But she also might have just thought better of it or thought you didn't care. I don't know why you split, or if you were prone to arguments when you were together, but sometimes digging up old feelings does more harm than good.
Author durkadurka Posted October 6, 2010 Author Posted October 6, 2010 Perhaps. But she also might have just thought better of it or thought you didn't care. I don't know why you split, or if you were prone to arguments when you were together, but sometimes digging up old feelings does more harm than good. I actually think that I have a really healthy and mature perspective on it now. Anyways I'm going to text her tomorrow to follow up. If she chooses not to I'm pretty content with not talking to her. The ball is in her court now.
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