chelle21689 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I last saw my bf on September 8th. He's in Airborne school right now and will be going to his unit every day next month to learn a language called Dari. He'll be getting paid for it and be considered active duty orders. Anyways, I know it'll be very difficult for him to call off and get a few days off to see me. So I know I'll be doing most of the visiting. A few months ago I already bought a plane ticket for December 27th to visit. Turns out I have the chance to visit him October 27-November 1th, November 10-15, OR November 24-29th because I won't be having school on certain days and I only go twice a week so it works out for me. Since my bf will start to get paid for language school when he attends late October, he doesn't think he'll have money in time to pay for my ticket. I have some money to visit, but is it a waste since I've already spent a lot on a holiday ticket? lol Only reason why I want to is because 3 months 3 weeks seem like forever to me. Longest w/o seeing him ever! Would you do it anyways? I try to be tight with money to save up to move one day.
aerogurl87 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 If I had the money to go see my boyfriend twice between now and New Years I'd buy the extra ticket. How much is it by the way? Because if it's less than $300 I'd definitely go. Also you can look online for deals on airline tickets. My boyfriend paid about $600 for a round trip for me to come see him in mid October when it was about $1,000+ everywhere else. But it's up to you. If money is really tight and you can wait, don't go. But if you can afford it, I'd say to go.
Romance Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Sometimes I feel like it isn't exactly 'a waste' but more of a like 'ah why bother spending ALL of this money when it isn't going to change our relationship to not see each other, it's just going to stay the same.." As much as I of course love to see him, sometimes I have such a hard time justifying spending money on monthly visits because it's just like okay i'll see him for a few days, i'll go home, back to square one.
Author chelle21689 Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 I understand what you mean. But I kind of see it as me getting sad again lol after and having a had time adjusting
LisaLee Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I understand what you mean. But I kind of see it as me getting sad again lol after and having a had time adjusting I know where you are coming from. I have a visit with bf coming up. I'm happy, but at the same time I'm apprehensive. This last time took me an especially long time to work out of my funk of having to leave him. Now I get 9 days with him and then weeks upon weeks of depression. I'm looking forward to seeing him, I am not looking forward to leaving him.
carhill Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Hope you have a frequent flier account set up. After awhile, play the game right and you can visit for free. What kind of distance are we talking here?
carhill Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Mid-cons are running around 260 all-in right now. Not bad. CLE-SAN/SMF/ONT/SNA. 14 day APEX. AA looks to be the airline of choice currently, routing through DFW. For that kind of money, I'd splurge a little. 6 cents per flown mile is a good deal. Thanksgiving will be high so I'd pass on that unless you can find a good deal and want to play the bump game (denied boarding). CLE= Cleveland SAN= San Diego SMF= Sacramento ONT= Ontario SNA= Santa Ana (Orange County) DFW= Dallas APEX = advance purchase AA = American Airlines Since you're doing all the traveling, I'd suggest to him that, if he'd like you to visit in the interim, to cover half your air fare retroactively once he gets paid. That seems reasonable to me.
aerogurl87 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Or Chelle if the time you leave and arrive don't matter, just the date, you can try priceline's name your own price deal. That's how I've been able to fly to see my boyfriend so cheap so far. Ok well not exactly cheap, but it is about $400 less than what we would normally have to pay for me to fly up there. Usually the flights leave early morning and arrive by mid afternoon in my experience. It's a worth a try if you don't care what time you leave and arrive.
Westy Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 (edited) I last saw my bf on September 8th. He's in Airborne school right now and will be going to his unit every day next month to learn a language called Dari. He'll be getting paid for it and be considered active duty orders. Anyways, I know it'll be very difficult for him to call off and get a few days off to see me. So I know I'll be doing most of the visiting. A few months ago I already bought a plane ticket for December 27th to visit. Turns out I have the chance to visit him October 27-November 1th, November 10-15, OR November 24-29th because I won't be having school on certain days and I only go twice a week so it works out for me. Since my bf will start to get paid for language school when he attends late October, he doesn't think he'll have money in time to pay for my ticket. I have some money to visit, but is it a waste since I've already spent a lot on a holiday ticket? lol Only reason why I want to is because 3 months 3 weeks seem like forever to me. Longest w/o seeing him ever! Would you do it anyways? I try to be tight with money to save up to move one day. Were you with him when he went away to basic and AIT? **** When I joined the army my AIT was 6 months, basic was about 2.5, with travel downtime I was gone for around 9 months, and you cant have any visitors during that (unless they changed something since 2001). God forbid he get sent to afghanistan, you think 3 and 3/4ths months is bad, try having no contact beyond phone calls and letters for 18 months. Edited October 1, 2010 by Westy
sweetjasmine Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I have some money to visit, but is it a waste since I've already spent a lot on a holiday ticket? Why would it be a waste? I don't think face-to-face time in an LDR is ever a waste, but there are times when a visit may not be worth the cost. Have you looked for prices for those different dates and compared? Can you estimate your budget for the next few months? If so, do you think you can part with the money for another plane ticket and still be okay? I assume your boyfriend is at DLI - if you visit for 5 days in October or November, will he have time to see you or will he be busy with class?
BellaBellaBella Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I would go, it's okay to have to adjust. He is deploying overseas and it would seem you would want as much time as possible. Go and spend time with your guy. When I met my husband we tried to see each other every month. We met in Jan, spent the month of Feb, togather, saw each other in March and April. In May we got married and spent two weeks togather. Were finally togather permanetly in June. The more face time the better. Bella
Author chelle21689 Posted October 4, 2010 Author Posted October 4, 2010 To the person above, I was never with him during BCT or AIT lol. I did attend his BCT graduation though. My dates aren't flexible because I'm scheduling visiting him when I don't have school days. I figured since I'll have extra cash (my bf is giving me money from Airborne because he owes..I'll be getting like $1200). Also, he says when he gets more money from active duty orders he'll pay half or full of my tickets when he can. Also, he'll be deploying next year for 7-9 months...and I know I'd definitely be saving money when he's gone. He'll have weekends off and get off around 4-5 I think.
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