juand Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Hi everyone, My girlfriend and I broke up two weeks ago, since then we have seen each other twice. Once because we ran into each other and the second time when I went to get my things. Ever since the break up i have texted her like three times. saying I miss you and wish things went different. The last time i saw her was friday and then the next day her mom wrote me a msg that said "I just want you to know that we dont hate you.... she was afraid you thought so" then she went on to say that "it is the kinder thing for her to do as clearly her heart is not in it anymore". then I texted her the next day saying "i hope ur doing well" and we went on until i said I just miss you alot and she responded with "i miss you too, please dont hate me im just trying to figure out my life". I am just confused about the situation, idk if i should just very painfully go on with my life, or is she just confused and maybe felt smothered by me and wants time to think things over even though she is saying its all over. please help me, i am very lost and i dont want to lose her if there is still a chance of being with her.
Forest72 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 You know, it seems she isn't trying to hurt you, and probably cares about you - but its also clear her heart isn't into it. You can't change that. Right now, the only thing you can change is yourself. Take more responsibility at work, start a hobby, date... She's not likely to see value in you while you are acting like this. And who knows, perhaps if you change yourself you may view your relationship differently. No contact. NO contact. NO CONTACT. Good luck, I'm sorry this happened to you.
Author juand Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 Hey thanks for the reply.... I have been without contact from her since sunday and im going strong but yet weak.. its so hard not to know about her... thanks for the advice tho....
Ajax Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 There are so many of us here, myself included, whose ex told them they needed to figure their life out. In fact there's a whole thread about wether or not that's a valid reason for brealing up or if it's a cop out. I suggest checking it out : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t246801/ I agree with NC. The only thing talking to her will do is push her away and drag out the pain. I'm on day 28 of NC. It can get pretty hard. Sometimes I don't think I can go another day without talking to her. But it's the lesser of two evils.
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