Sonolumino Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Should I congratulate my ex on her new boyfriend? I figure I'd just send a simple text saying "Congrats on the new bf :)" or something like that. I'd like to remain friends with her and I thought this would be a friendly gesture. Yes or no?
BeagleGal Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 WHAT? F*ck no! Why would you?? She's got a new boyfriend, big deal. Its not like she found a cure for AIDS or did something absolutely extraordinary. Leave it be. Leave her be. Do you think she would congratulate you if she found out you were dating someone new? I should re-read your past threads to see what the dealio is between you and her and I think its nice you want to stay on good terms but I think its a bit much to congratulate her on a new man. Don't bother.
Author Sonolumino Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Ok sounds good. Thanks. I don't have much feelings for her anymore, I just thought it would be a nice thing to do. I'm not sure how it would look though, which I'm asking advice
BeagleGal Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Well my dear, I am glad you asked for advise before doing it! It'll just make you almost look like a p*ssy, to be quite honest. That's my opinion. And I say that because if my ex did that to me, I'd think he was a bit of a loser who hasn't really gotten over me or something along those lines. And you dont want her thinking anything like that with you. I'm sure no one hear wants her thinking that of you... ! So just leave it be.
Author Sonolumino Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Oh ok, I honestly didn't even think about it like that! Because if she did it to me I'd be like "Oh ok", and not think much of it. Haha I guess that's why there's this forum. I appreciate it.
grungesponge Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I agree. I think it makes you look desperate and I question your intention to be friends with her.
Author Sonolumino Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 I truly meant it as platonic, I assure you.
fabio10 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Are you crazy ! ? Seriously picture the two of them in bed laughing and talking about the weirdo ex who just texted a congrats message Do you want to give her a medal too..... Respect yourself leave them to it and give yourself a medal ! Take care.
paleblue Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Should I congratulate my ex on her new boyfriend? I figure I'd just send a simple text saying "Congrats on the new bf :)" or something like that. I'd like to remain friends with her and I thought this would be a friendly gesture. Yes or no? Don't be that guy
Author Sonolumino Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 Got it. Thank you. I sometimes have problems understanding social norms, so I figured I'd ask.
silic0ntoad Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Yeah, um, what they said above. No happy b-day or merry what-the-****-ever holidays she celebrates either.
hurt and devastated Posted October 5, 2010 Posted October 5, 2010 I think the point has been made, but just in case....it would be along the lines of apologising to her if she cheated on you. You just don't do it.
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