livelife Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Ive posted on here quite alot, Ive set NC with my ex...quitee alot. We were huge in eachothers lives, first everything. ( yes, everything) First love, I was the first girl he cried over.. ( muahahaha) lol! Anyways, we've been through soo much, too much to even say. Really He still wants to be friends, but i still have feelings for him. when i called NC this summer, he got a girlfriend. They broke up, and he started talking to me again. Giving me mixed signals by saying that he HAD to see me, he missed me and he couldnt stop thinking about me. I had rejected his offer to hang out a bunch of times, but i finally said sure. Then I tried being nice and letting him come to a party i had at my house. Bad idea. we got in a fight. Then I hear he is telling my friend that since im trying to forget about him ( im not, im trying to get over him) that he will forget me. That led to another fight, and things had ended. Well today, I apologized for some of the things i had said in that fight, and I wanted to end it on a good note. He asked why we couldnt be friends, and i explained that i took time and that it wasnt easy for me. He said he gets a sinking, sick feeling in his stomach each time he thinks about us not being even friends. I know he doesnt have any feelings romantically toward me anymore, which really sucks. I do. I still have feelings for him. Anyways, he goes, " well when your ready, call me and we can hang out in a big group or something " this made me sickk. He was so ok with being friends!! I replied, " sure.. if ever.." and that idea upset him, that I didnt even know if i could be friends with him, no promises! Anyways, thats over with. He just replied with " alright" so thats the end. Now im trying to be strong this time around and I HAVE to get over him. I want him back, but its not happening. So i just have to move on. any encouraging words would be good, and i think posting on here can help me? maybe? who knows.
Ajax Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 You're doing the right thing for yourself. You're doing what you have to to get through this. Many people on here have said, and I agree, that exes asking those that they've dumped to be friends is a selfish attemp to make themselves feel better. When your ex left you he lost the right to be a part of your life. If you still have feelings for him, don't settle for anything less than what you had.
Author livelife Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 You're doing the right thing for yourself. You're doing what you have to to get through this. Many people on here have said, and I agree, that exes asking those that they've dumped to be friends is a selfish attemp to make themselves feel better. When your ex left you he lost the right to be a part of your life. If you still have feelings for him, don't settle for anything less than what you had. exactly, and Im finally stepping up and not putting up with it anymore. He has kept hurting me constantly, confusing me. And i know he is casually dating someone else, so why do i want to hear about her? I don't. It makes me happy to know how upset it makes him that i dont even want to be friends, atleast he cares somewhat!! I just wish he cared to the extent I do...
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