GreenerGrass Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 What do you do when you have a second chance, and you are undecided? In other words, There's a possibility in everything working, except I'm not in love with her anymore. But even after her little fling (which she ended) after the breakup, it's pretty evident she's in love with me. She's afraid of losing me forever. I had a few flings since the breakup as well. While she can look past them, I'm different. I can't. I'm tired of feeling like I'm in a rut. Things just will never be the same. Not to mention my trust is gone for her. She wants to do anything it takes to rebuild us, BUT everything she does I end up resenting. Can anyone help me clear some of the fog thats clouding my judgement? GreenerGrass
Ajax Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 What do you do when you have a second chance, and you are undecided? In other words, There's a possibility in everything working, except I'm not in love with her anymore. But even after her little fling (which she ended) after the breakup, it's pretty evident she's in love with me. She's afraid of losing me forever. I had a few flings since the breakup as well. While she can look past them, I'm different. I can't. I'm tired of feeling like I'm in a rut. Things just will never be the same. Not to mention my trust is gone for her. She wants to do anything it takes to rebuild us, BUT everything she does I end up resenting. Can anyone help me clear some of the fog thats clouding my judgement? GreenerGrass Sounds to me you already know the answer. If you don't have any feeling left for her then you'd just be leading her on by getting back together with her. You've listed sevral reasons not to give her another chance. I didn't read any in favor of it.
BellaBellaBella Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I don't see the fog. I see you being clear in that you don't want the relationship. Perhaps it's not fog but guilt that you don't want the relationship. Why would you force something you don't want? Would you be happy if you went back with someone you don't want to be with? I wouldn't. Move on!
Author GreenerGrass Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 I've told her that I'm not in love with her anymore. She wants to try again. I went through my time of hurt, and nothing bothers me anymore in that sense. We have a child together, and I came from a broken home, and don't want that for our child. Sometimes, I just feel i should suck it up, and deal with everything. This is why I feel my head is in the fog. Things just aren't the same, and will never be. It's just hard to go against what you've believed in for so long. I told myself throughout all my years that I wouldn't allow my child to come from a broken home. It seems, that's what I'm doing... Greener
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