Hhhh Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) All started 2 years ago when we met in class we dated a year an half things were great the first summer I spent with her was the greatest summer of my life and our whole relationship was great but it started getting dull and things seemed to be routine anyways... We texted all day and called each other every night basically we smothered each other 2 months ago she was stressing about starting post secondary school and a fees days into school she seemed distant (2 weeks ago) she broke it off I called a few days after the break to meet up she said it was to much for her to handle so I told her to forget about it and two after I called again she declined my call which set me off The kicker she told me she is confused and she is still in love with me during the break up but she was having doubts about our relationship which were off and on... She also told me that she need to face school by herself and that I should move on I have no clue what this is about and after she declined my call I decided to just drop it and I have been NC for a week but I doubt it would work in my situation because the stress of school would keep her busy I am also in university so I know what she is going through what do you guys think? Edited September 30, 2010 by Hhhh
Billie The Puppet Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 I'll tell you what you do not want to hear because it is the truth. NC does not bring your ex back. NC keeps you from your ex. Trust me it sucks but it's the best thing for you. Being in contact with an ex doesn't keep the ex from moving on but it does keep you from moving on. So will NC work for you? Only to help you heal but not to bring the ex back. If an ex comes back it is not due to NC but other natural reasons sure NC may aid this but you can't go into NC as a game perspective to win an ex back.
Author Hhhh Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 I'll tell you what you do not want to hear because it is the truth. NC does not bring your ex back. NC keeps you from your ex. Trust me it sucks but it's the best thing for you. Being in contact with an ex doesn't keep the ex from moving on but it does keep you from moving on. So will NC work for you? Only to help you heal but not to bring the ex back. If an ex comes back it is not due to NC but other natural reasons sure NC may aid this but you can't go into NC as a game perspective to win an ex back. But the last time I called she declined so I can't even keep in contact I don't want to seem needy by calling everyday and I think she just needs space to think and clear her head but I'm not sure what's the best route for me
Author Hhhh Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 I'm seriously slipping here woke up five in the morning dreaming about her I want to call and see her I'm going crazy I need an answer Help me out guys
Billie The Puppet Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 My last reply wasn't telling you to keep contact with your ex. Your ex's actions tells you she is done with you. You need to go NC for you to heal. There are no answers we can give you but I can tell you to prepare for the worst and that is she is never coming back.
fabio10 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Billie is right go NC, but stop thinking about going NC just do it dont be thinking what might happen or what might not happen just view it as a time out. Your wounds are fresh so its totally normal to be feeling like you are even the broken sleep and dreaming of her, she knows deep down you love her so you just have to be STRONG right now and go below the radar, think about it if you want someone dont YOU make it happen and if she wants you she will make it happen, try to keep yourself busy talk to friends about how you are feeling, do NOT bug her or check up on her if she has doubts nothing you say or do will change her mind let her be and if she wants you she will let you know. In the meantime make sure you are eating right and spend time with friends as much as you can put on a brave face even if you are dying inside and anytime you think about contacting her write it here first....it will get better who knows what the future holds !
Author Hhhh Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Thanks guys I really needed that... But I don't think the relationship is over a a few weeks before the doubts I had a lot on my min and I was distant and wasn't making time to see her when I dis it was really brief but we would text all day about nothing.... I think the doubts started at that time an the pressure of school just through her out of it during the break up she told me every seemed so right when she's with me and she's confused and that I didn't do anything right she's just confused.... The last thing she said before she drove was I love you... So that's why I think she just needs time to clear her head that why I want to go cno contact for the both of us but I don't want to give up on it because she might want me to show her that I really love her I don't know this is tough
Cuchara2 Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Aaah mate, I just got into proper NC and all I can say even looking at my ex pisses me off now. She left me in a **** way with no proper reasons. I don't even look at her and it makes me happy to know that she's starting to wonder if she made the right choice or not. You will feel just as happy in my position
Author Hhhh Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) Also going to the states for 3 weeks and not taking my phone with me and I don't know if I should tell her Edited September 30, 2010 by Hhhh
Billie The Puppet Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 (edited) Also going to the states for 3 weeks and not taking my phone with me and I don't know if I should tell her You are kidding right? Of course you don't tell her. That 3 weeks will be easier on you don't tell her. Edited September 30, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
Trovador Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Well, the OP wants her ex back, so I don't think NC is the best option for him... and when I say "best option" I am not talking about winning her back but realizing definitely that she is out of the relationship... think about it, going NC to just know months ahead that she doesn't love you all the same must be hard... That is why NC is to heal, to forget and start living again... it can't be a game because it would be the hardest game to play and the easiest to lose... If I were to choose, I'd go LC... either way I'd get the same result, a BIG NO, but I'd find it easier to do it... Just my thoughts, folks...
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