fonso Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Hey guys, knew to this froum. Been at a loose end and thought to seek advice on the internet. So just over 2 weeks ago while texting my gf she tells me shes feeling weird and doesn't want to be in a relationship and feels differently about me now, but loves me. So after a few days of talking about it she came to my house to see me and we cuddeld and spoke and cried and even made love, such an emotional time!!! Then when she leaves we decided not to speak for two weeks, so she could realise if she missed me or that she wanted to be with me. After no contact for a week, i seen on her facebook that she had been out clubbing and was back at her friends with a few males, and it got teh better of me and i had to say something because it felt like she was rubbing my nose in it. She said shes not been interested in any other guys aswell, but a realised a couldnt go througth the pain of her out with other guys and we agreed it was over. So after speaking to a few girls on facebook she randomly spoke to me only for a few sentences later to loose her rag about me speaking to this girl (who i was flirting with). I text my ex later that night and said i didnt want to argue and told her how i felt and that i would wait as long as it takes if she realises she wants me. Its now been 4 days without contact, and i would appreciate anyones advice on what i should do, or input on what you think she is thinking. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond if you do.
Ajax Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Hey guys, knew to this froum. Been at a loose end and thought to seek advice on the internet. So just over 2 weeks ago while texting my gf she tells me shes feeling weird and doesn't want to be in a relationship and feels differently about me now, but loves me. So after a few days of talking about it she came to my house to see me and we cuddeld and spoke and cried and even made love, such an emotional time!!! Then when she leaves we decided not to speak for two weeks, so she could realise if she missed me or that she wanted to be with me. After no contact for a week, i seen on her facebook that she had been out clubbing and was back at her friends with a few males, and it got teh better of me and i had to say something because it felt like she was rubbing my nose in it. She said shes not been interested in any other guys aswell, but a realised a couldnt go througth the pain of her out with other guys and we agreed it was over. So after speaking to a few girls on facebook she randomly spoke to me only for a few sentences later to loose her rag about me speaking to this girl (who i was flirting with). I text my ex later that night and said i didnt want to argue and told her how i felt and that i would wait as long as it takes if she realises she wants me. Its now been 4 days without contact, and i would appreciate anyones advice on what i should do, or input on what you think she is thinking. Thanks for taking the time to read and respond if you do. Yeah, you came to the right place. My ex girlfriend also needed time to "find herself." Which basically meant she was over me. When they pull this stuff on you it hits you like a truck in the face. Sorry man. You told her you'd wait as long as it takes? I did that too. It's been about six weeks. Soe people will tell you, and I believe them, that telling them you'll wait only gives them more power and takes away your desirability. Sure it sounds nice and romantic when they're in the middle of breaking up with you, but ultimately it's self defeating. In my case my ex specifically told me NOT to wait for her and I told her I'd do it anyway. Six weeks later, I still feel like her leftovers. The problem is that it makes us hold onto false hope of getting back together. I can't tell you how to give it up though since I'm still pathetically clinging to it myself. The bottom line here is that both of us need to find a way to move on. Clearly they already have. Four days is not a long time for NC even though it seems like a million years have gone by. I also hate to tell you, but it's going to get worse before it gets better. But don't break NC. Don't let her string you along. Eventually (I'm told) you'll start to let go.
Mad Max Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Move on. She isn't in it anymore, so just go NC and you'll feel much better. So after speaking to a few girls on facebook she randomly spoke to me only for a few sentences later to loose her rag about me speaking to this girl (who i was flirting with). Classic. Girl sees ex getting attention from other girls and suddenly, she re-appears!!! She wants what she can't have. Even more of a reason to move on.
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