somuchforthat Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ever have a phase in your life when you had great work ethic, were diligent, disciplined, very energetic, enthusiastic and had a great positive out look on life? How do you regain that mentally and the sort of mental euphoria/rush of feeling worthy and productive and accomplished?
skydiveaddict Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ever have a phase in your life when you had great work ethic, were diligent, disciplined, very energetic, enthusiastic and had a great positive out look on life? How do you regain that mentally and the sort of mental euphoria/rush of feeling worthy and productive and accomplished? It's hard to find again once you've lost it, isn't it? I'm wondering the same thing myself.
Author somuchforthat Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 It's hard to find again once you've lost it, isn't it? I'm wondering the same thing myself. ITS VERY HARD i have lost that phase im not sure how i got into it but i was unstoppable.... im trying to find myself and get back into that "mode" per say im glad someone knows what i am referring to with the original post
TouchedByViolet Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 How long have you been missing that positive phase? I've been in something similar for about 2 years. Not really sure how to get out, but small steps help. Start doing things you like, don't beat yourself, and try not to take life seriously. Even though I normally don't feel that excited about life, I generally have that 1 day a month where life just seems good. Nothing in particular has changed but when I look at the world there is plenty of color, interest, and hope. I wish I could feel that way more often.
Author somuchforthat Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 How long have you been missing that positive phase? I've been in something similar for about 2 years. Not really sure how to get out, but small steps help. Start doing things you like, don't beat yourself, and try not to take life seriously. Even though I normally don't feel that excited about life, I generally have that 1 day a month where life just seems good. Nothing in particular has changed but when I look at the world there is plenty of color, interest, and hope. I wish I could feel that way more often. ever since i graduated college i have been kinda in the dumps. Its been about a year and a half for more. Some days are much better but i think you bring up a good point. I tend to be very critical on myself and thats why i think i kinda feel down in the dumps. In school i had a very disciplined, motivated and goal orientaed mind set and i didn't comprise this attitude in anyway shape or form. I think this attitude kept me on edge and no matter how hard things got i always pulled though and showed myself what i was truly capable of. Plus i have been single pretty much my whole life and i am not getting any younger i feel this pressure to be in a relationship ( idk this was never a pressing issue while i was in school. It did pop up time to time but my focus was %100 on performing well in school and being happy ( i did party a lot but my school performance was never affected by it )
skydiveaddict Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Plus i have been single pretty much my whole life and i am not getting any younger i feel this pressure to be in a relationship ( idk this was never a pressing issue while i was in school. It did pop up time to time but my focus was %100 on performing well in school and being happy ( i did party a lot but my school performance was never affected by it ) Believe me my friend, you are a LOT younger than me. I've been pretty much single my whole life as well. The most notable exception was the girl that dumped me while I was deployed. You WILL find the girl that's right for you. You must believe in yourself.
Author somuchforthat Posted September 30, 2010 Author Posted September 30, 2010 Believe me my friend, you are a LOT younger than me. I've been pretty much single my whole life as well. The most notable exception was the girl that dumped me while I was deployed. You WILL find the girl that's right for you. You must believe in yourself. i did believe in myself a few years ago. I didnt need any vaildation from anyone. I had my own self drive and motivation. I didnt have any issues w feeling lonely or sad. It was just me and the rest of the world to take on! Everyone says you will meet someone, someplace sometime....which basically saying i will meet someone....doesn't really help lol ( i know its one of those things that until you personally experience it you will never believe it) ( Not bashing anyone here but i honestly feel that people say it to make us single people feel better) My first and only relationship was three weeks long ( i hung out w the gilr for several months prior in a group friends) anyway she hit on me and pretty much initiated the relationship and then she dumped me when i wouldn't convert to her religion. I never mocked/ridiculed or disrespected her beliefs in anyway shape or from but it was over. I felt like the whole relationship was a huge facade, a lie, a phony. I felt cheated and betrayed and that i was just some trial or something and when it didnt work out she just terminated it. This girl was gorgeous and she knew it too. She feeds her validation by posting new display pics on facebook and then a million people comment on how beautiful she is ( which she is). I was pretty surprised we even dated bc she is really good looking. Why was she w me...i knew it was to good to be true... I fell right in like a gullible fool ! I thought that people knew better and that you should respect someone for who they are and not mold them into something you want them to be....i give everyone that respect and i thought that seriously others would have that same decency. I hope i find someone someday but right now it sucks being single. I just need to focus better on my life and improving myself and not be so tied up w what my friends are doing.... Skydiveaddict im sorry for the pain that was caused to you. Some people need to feed reality into their minds and not have a facade image in their minds and try and mold others to fit this image... Going to war to serve our country is a honorable thing and people need to support our troops regardless of their view on the war. Where you gone a long time and she got lonely an fed up and so she found someone else while you were on duty, risking your life to ensure our freedom?
skydiveaddict Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Where you gone a long time and she got lonely an fed up and so she found someone else while you were on duty, risking your life to ensure our freedom? She never told me. When I got home, she was gone. (Thank you for the kind words) But regardless there is someone out there for you, it will happen for you I know it.
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