After almost 2 years of being broken up and not checking facebook, I'm looking now.

[health]

After almost 2 years of being broken up and not checking facebook, I'm looking now.

 

It's messed up. I look at her photos - she still has the ones of us up with my comments. I left her such beautiful words. I look at her and still don't understand how I can find anyone like her.

 

She used to mention me all the time on her updates - and the guy she's rebounded on me with - she hasn't mentioned him once - he wrote her and it's so crap and vulger like "Your lying"

 

I never looked at her facebook for almost the whole 2 years - now I am.

 

I would like to stop. I will. It just kills me. How we were so good for 5 years - both reciprocal, good, in love, passionate. And it's all gone.

 

I'm so picky and feel like we were so good.

 

Oh well this will teach me how to totaly move on and let go, as hard as it may be. I liked her for who I thought she was, not who she really was. She was unemployed, lazy, didn't show me alot of appreciation, grade 10 education only high school drop out - I know it's best we ended it - if we had kids and moved in together I know problems would have surfaced - she couldn't hold a job or save any money - and I hear finances are the main reason mature couples break up.

 

I'm good, I just don't want to get addicted to checking up on her every now and then.

 

I just want to get her out of my head, so I can ener a new relationship good.

 

Just sux when you thought you had it perfect. I'm committed to being better.

[listen_to_me_please]

yep the good old days.

time to bury it and find another.

[ohno89]

After almost 2 years of being broken up and not checking facebook, I'm looking now.

 

It's messed up. I look at her photos - she still has the ones of us up with my comments. I left her such beautiful words. I look at her and still don't understand how I can find anyone like her.

 

She used to mention me all the time on her updates - and the guy she's rebounded on me with - she hasn't mentioned him once - he wrote her and it's so crap and vulger like "Your lying"

 

I never looked at her facebook for almost the whole 2 years - now I am.

 

I would like to stop. I will. It just kills me. How we were so good for 5 years - both reciprocal, good, in love, passionate. And it's all gone.

 

I'm so picky and feel like we were so good.

 

Oh well this will teach me how to totaly move on and let go, as hard as it may be. I liked her for who I thought she was, not who she really was. She was unemployed, lazy, didn't show me alot of appreciation, grade 10 education only high school drop out - I know it's best we ended it - if we had kids and moved in together I know problems would have surfaced - she couldn't hold a job or save any money - and I hear finances are the main reason mature couples break up.

 

I'm good, I just don't want to get addicted to checking up on her every now and then.

 

I just want to get her out of my head, so I can ener a new relationship good.

 

Just sux when you thought you had it perfect. I'm committed to being better.

 

Think you just answered your own question there dear...although I get it; just because they're bad on paper, doesn't mean your heart gives a crap!

 

You did well to not check on her for 2 years...did you do it to test yourself, to see how you'd feel about her now? Truth is....if the love was really, like if it was really there and you built up a future with that person whether it be discussed or just in your head, it's always gonna hurt. Especially if she's still with the guy she rebounded with as opposed to a new guy.

 

I can used to be able to understand this - only because I could never do it myself - but people get into R for the wrong reasons all the time. 2 years together does not necessarily mean 2 of the most amazing years of her life...clearly. Just because she got into a new R straight after yours, doesn't make it any better, nor does it discount yours. But you're right, time to let go and move on. You can start fresh with someone else more worthy of your time, knowing you've taken time out to look after yourself first, learn and grow.

[health]

yep the good old days.

time to bury it and find another.

 

 

You're right. It just felt comforting though, looking at her photos. Like I didn't feel any pain. It's like having a girl, but without the drama of who she really was. I didn't check her fb today, nor photos and don't plan to again.

[health]

Think you just answered your own question there dear...although I get it; just because they're bad on paper, doesn't mean your heart gives a crap!

 

You did well to not check on her for 2 years...did you do it to test yourself, to see how you'd feel about her now? Truth is....if the love was really, like if it was really there and you built up a future with that person whether it be discussed or just in your head, it's always gonna hurt. Especially if she's still with the guy she rebounded with as opposed to a new guy.

 

I can used to be able to understand this - only because I could never do it myself - but people get into R for the wrong reasons all the time. 2 years together does not necessarily mean 2 of the most amazing years of her life...clearly. Just because she got into a new R straight after yours, doesn't make it any better, nor does it discount yours. But you're right, time to let go and move on. You can start fresh with someone else more worthy of your time, knowing you've taken time out to look after yourself first, learn and grow.

 

I don't know. I just went nc for almost 2 years. I think I healed enough to be able to look. I won't anymore though. I'm commited to this.

 

Thanks for what you said. I agree people get involved in relationships for wrong reasons all the time. I'm just committed to being as healed as I can be.

When I find a new girl - I don't want to mention my ex ever, not check on her etc.

 

It's funny cause her Mom told me 4 months in her rebound she used to talk about me all the time and yelled at her new guy saying things like "my name - would never do that!" ha ha