durkadurka Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Been pissed at my ex for a while, she used me pretty harshly after being in a relationship for 2.5 years. A few weeks (read: 3) after I visited her because she was lonely and sad, and only 1 week after she stopped talking to me.. she told me she was 'seeing' someone 'casually'. I don't have the benefit of knowing how serious it is, nor giving a sh*t. If it were casual I probably wouldn't have cared but it was still a serious kick in the balls to hear right on the tail of me visiting her. She's called a few times since she told me, and when I didn't return the call, she called and texted me. This pisses me off that she could do what she did, then expect me to call her back. I wrote myself a basic script that I wanted to stick to when she calls, so that I don't make an ass of myself, because us men, as much as we hate to admit it, we fall to pieces when an ex calls that we still kind of like. Whatta ya think? Dear X, Thanks for calling. I know you would like to be a part of my life, and I've spent some time thinking about our friendship. Whether it was trying to cheer you up after a late night phone call after a hard day, trying to support you through and help improve your business proposal which has had its share of ups and downs, or flying down there to cheer you up when you were lonely, I feel that I deserve to be treated better than I have. A particular comment that stuck out was when you said I didn't want to talk about our relationship in St. Louis and that we had a chance. It was mean and wrong. Whether it was the 3 page letter I left for you, or telling you that I would love to move down and help you work on this massive business proposal (even so far as going to say I would be willing to be your gopher), taking you to all your favourite places, or simply flying down to visit you (much to your surprise and excitement) when you needed a companion and a friend, I was there. I worked my hardest to be the best person that I could be, and make sure that you were happy. I feel that the choices that have been made since, what has been said, and the way things have been handled are not those of someone who cares about me, my feelings, our history and our friendship. I don't think we have anything to talk about anymore. All the best. Y I think it's pretty straight forward. She really pushed the guilt on me when we talked last, and I wanted to set the record straight without being dramatic. It probably is a distant memory to her now but I will feel better.
dng Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Are you serious? The best answer is no answer. Dont waste your time on someone that can abuse you like that. No guilt, no shame on your side. NC.
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