Iselia Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ok, we dated for about 4 years. Broken up 5.5 months, NC for 1.5 months. She is still the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about before I fall asleep. If I'm alone, I think about her (and since I'm an introvert, I'm more alone than surrounded by people). I try, and try, and try to stop thinking about her, but it never seems to work. I feel tired and sick. I don't want to think about someone who isn't even going to give me a second thought or any consideration. I still think about how she's doing and feeling even though I know it doesn't matter anymore; even though I know she doesn't give a damn about me so I shouldn't give a damn about her. Is this normal after being broken up for so long? Am I just obsessing or is this normal behavior after some time has passed after a breakup? How can I STOP thinking about her so much?
pickle1 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Well i pretty sure its normal because im in the same boat you are bro. Its been a month for me and i wish i could stop thinking about my ex. Some people go months feeling that way. I sure hope i dont, but i know i will. I also just try and stay busy as possible.
Username37 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ok, we dated for about 4 years. Broken up 5.5 months, NC for 1.5 months. She is still the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about before I fall asleep. If I'm alone, I think about her (and since I'm an introvert, I'm more alone than surrounded by people). I try, and try, and try to stop thinking about her, but it never seems to work. I feel tired and sick. I don't want to think about someone who isn't even going to give me a second thought or any consideration. I still think about how she's doing and feeling even though I know it doesn't matter anymore; even though I know she doesn't give a damn about me so I shouldn't give a damn about her. Is this normal after being broken up for so long? Am I just obsessing or is this normal behavior after some time has passed after a breakup? How can I STOP thinking about her so much? It's normal. I feel the same way. I'm thinking a lot more about her now considering she found someone else
skydiveaddict Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 (edited) Believe me these are normal feelings. You just have to gut it out I still have feelings that almost crush the life out of me, her and other memories I have can really hurt right down to the core. Edited September 29, 2010 by skydiveaddict
bestrong Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Absolute normal. Broke up a year, NC for 2.5 months and I still think about her everyday. It's ok to think about your ex, just make sure it doesn't affect you to the point where you can't eat / work! You aren't alone.
Author Iselia Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 I can't help but feel like it's obsessive thoughts since we've been broken up for 5.5 months, 1.5 of which have been NC. She basically replaced me while still in the relationship or I'm pretty sure she rarely thinks about me. I'm so tired and sick of thinking about someone who hurt me so badly. I just honestly dislike the person she is now.
benB Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I feel the same way man. I don't like her for what she did to me but I can not stop thinking about her. It is really annoying, I wake up at night because I am thinking of her. I can not sleep for very long, study for a long period of time without her crossing my mind. It is a tough period for me, I hope this feeling doesn't last months.
Ajax Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I feel the same way man. I don't like her for what she did to me but I can not stop thinking about her. It is really annoying, I wake up at night because I am thinking of her. I can not sleep for very long, study for a long period of time without her crossing my mind. It is a tough period for me, I hope this feeling doesn't last months. I'm right there myself. It's been six weeks since my breakup and I thought I'd be doing much better by now. WRONG! Nights and mornings are the worst. I have panic attacks when I imagine her wih someone else. I have a thesis to write for my masters. Haven't started. I never knew how deeply I could love someone before her, and when she left she took a chunk of my soul with her. I'm trying to mend it, but the going is rough.
ShannonMI Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ok, we dated for about 4 years. Broken up 5.5 months, NC for 1.5 months. She is still the first thing I think about in the morning and the last thing I think about before I fall asleep. If I'm alone, I think about her (and since I'm an introvert, I'm more alone than surrounded by people). I try, and try, and try to stop thinking about her, but it never seems to work. I feel tired and sick. I don't want to think about someone who isn't even going to give me a second thought or any consideration. I still think about how she's doing and feeling even though I know it doesn't matter anymore; even though I know she doesn't give a damn about me so I shouldn't give a damn about her. Is this normal after being broken up for so long? Am I just obsessing or is this normal behavior after some time has passed after a breakup? How can I STOP thinking about her so much? The time span for getting over an ex is different for everyone. You were in your relationship for 4 years. That's a long time! Give yourself a break! Plus I think introverts are more emotional and it takes more time to detach. I'm an introvert and I'm a very emotional person. I get very attached to romantic partners and it's hard for me to detach. I was with my ex for 8 years and it's been about 5 months since we broke up. I still think about him non-stop, 24/7. It's irritating, but you have to just ride it out. I am doing a lot better then I was when we first broke up. Every month that goes by I seem to get better. About a month ago I found out he cheated on me before we had broken up and that set me back a bit, but I'm still moving forward. I'm still in plenty of pain over all of it, but a lot of that pain has turned into anger. You need to start feeling some anger. It will get easier. Don't worry:)
Meaplus3 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Very normal. We all get past thing's at our own pace. Just take your time and work through the emotions.. you will get there. Mea:)
Author Iselia Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 I feel exhausted right now. I just cried a lot and I cried a lot last night too. I can't believe someone who loved me could do this to me. I feel like I understand, but I don't understand at the same time. She changed so damn much and it hurts me so damn badly that she doesn't give a crap about me anymore. I'm so tired of having these emotions and thoughts that I still love her so much but she could really care less and just wants me out of her life for good.
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