aerogurl87 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ladies, since you're all being so forthcoming (pun intended), how are you on the subject of sex in the morning? Do you, or would you, occasionally like to be woken up with your guy doing some gentle initiating? I'm horny almost every morning that I wake up so morning sex is awesome. I need no initiating, I can initiate it myself.
curlygirl40 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Buy Ian Kerner's book 'She Comes First'. And read it. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_15?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=she+comes+first&sprefix=she+comes+first
Rxwoman Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 You know everyone is different, so everywoman is going to like something a little different, as far as technique, a man's looks, sex talk, and such. Therefore, I'd say asking her what she likes, and then doing it, and being into HER. By that I mean if you give the impression that she is making YOU hotter than hell, THAT is an incredible turn on. Also starting slow, woman usually like to be kissed a bit first. And don't get too hung up on size. Pretty much any size is fine, as long as it gets good and hard. Anyway, that's my 2 cents.
Author tincanman99 Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 Buy Ian Kerner's book 'She Comes First'. And read it. http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_c_1_15?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=she+comes+first&sprefix=she+comes+first Thanks for the input. I just downloaded it. You can always learn more. I love doing this for a woman and some have even trained me . So from what I am hearing they like aggression, passion and taking control among other things.
nddb Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Thanks ladies for your inputs. Very good thread.
donnamaybe Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Going by the title alone, here's my short answer: A want to make a woman insane with pleasure. The how just comes naturally if you have that quality.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Going by the title alone, here's my short answer: A want to make a woman insane with pleasure. The how just comes naturally if you have that quality. You rang?.....
Feelin Frisky Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 You are SUCH a bad boy! Word up, kute stuff.
curlygirl40 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Something else that shouldn't go unsaid is the 'art of the tease'. Don't just go for it. Tease a little. Go there, then back off a little and then go there again. Make a woman want it so badly she's begging you to let her 'get there'. See my meaning w/o being too graphic?? If a guy can find my G-spot (oh and it's there!) he's my hero. (Remember George on Seinfeld? 'It's a myth!')
KraftDinner Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Just to be completely contrary, I hate foreplay, I hate when it lasts longer than 15 minutes, and if someone teases me to the point of almost finishing and then pulls back, I'm generally done (and very disappointed). What makes someone good... it's hard to explain, I guess. It would just have to be that we have the same rhythm and don't feel awkward. Also sloppy kissing is gross. Oh, and asking me what I like or if he can do something specific is a huge turnoff for me.
OpenBook Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Two words: Enthusiasm, and Adoration. That's all I need. As far as sex in the morning, well, it's a terrible thing to waste morning wood. But no kissing (or very little) due to bad breath. A short intense quickie is best. Great way to start the day! :bunny:
Angel1111 Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Being good to her during the moments he's not in bed with her.
alexlakeman Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Just to be completely contrary, I hate foreplay, I hate when it lasts longer than 15 minutes, and if someone teases me to the point of almost finishing and then pulls back, I'm generally done (and very disappointed). What makes someone good... it's hard to explain, I guess. It would just have to be that we have the same rhythm and don't feel awkward. Also sloppy kissing is gross. Oh, and asking me what I like or if he can do something specific is a huge turnoff for me. You must be a lonely woman or one of those that ends up getting married and not having sex for weeks at a time. lol
Star Gazer Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Strong, lusty, and take charge. Freely gives and receives pleasure. Makes me come as many times as I want. Since I come easily and often, if a guy stops after I come once, unless it's like the O of the century, I am disappointed. Free of shame and judgment about sex and our bodies. Passionate, makes love to me full body, with lots of touching, grabbing, kissing, sucking, and unbridled exploration. Never complains about the need to wear condoms. Varies the thrusting action, incorporating grinding rotations, shallow thrusting, different angles. Admires and touches my body freely when I ride him. Is verbal, makes affirming, fun, and dirty comments. Enjoys having sex with me all over the house (and city), and makes adventurous sex happen. Think moonlit beach with a blanket and red wine. Flirts with me and makes suggestive comments during non-sexual activities, to get my imagination churning and prime me for later. I could go on and on. (And so could he. ) Great list. I got a lil' excited just reading it...
JanetD Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 "What makes a guy good in bed?" Having as strong a desire to pleasure me as he does to have an orgasm.
bac Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Ladies, since you're all being so forthcoming (pun intended), how are you on the subject of sex in the morning? Do you, or would you, occasionally like to be woken up with your guy doing some gentle initiating? i do not like it in the morning.
bac Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 I am just curious. I am always open to tips and input in general as its good to learn. So what makes a guy good in bed? Attentiveness? Focus? Aggression? Leading? Patience? Hit me ladies, expand my mind . Most important is foreplay. It could be great to do it for 1 hr to turn her on. But, it is hard for a male. The more you turn her on during foreplay, the more she will like sex. If the foreplay is short, she will not feel anything except pain because the vagina is not ready for sex. During sex, you should last as long as she wants you to last. Use different positions, oral sex for both. I guess it is OK to be attentive. But, I am not sure what you mean. Are you going to focus on what? Aggression/dominance is not for every woman. It is a special preference. If your girl is young/submissive, you should lead. If your woman knows what she is doing and wants to lead, let her lead sometimes. Patience is probably good for foreplay and cuddling after sex. Next most important thing is cuddling after sex. It could be great to do it for 30 mins and more. Be sweet, talk, express feelings, connect emotionally. Be thankful and let her know that she is special, beautiful and hot. Next hrs/day, contact her to let her know that you had a great time.
denise_xo Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Something else that shouldn't go unsaid is the 'art of the tease'. Don't just go for it. Tease a little A LOT. Curlygirl, I've edited your post slightly.
Author tincanman99 Posted October 1, 2010 Author Posted October 1, 2010 Very interesting and there seems to be constant themes here.
bac Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Thanks for the input. I just downloaded it. You can always learn more. I love doing this for a woman and some have even trained me . So from what I am hearing they like aggression, passion and taking control among other things. Being aggressive and taking control is the easiest way to go. It works well only with young girls who feel nothing and that is why they are thankful that you take control. They really feel nothing and do not know what to do while you do all the action. While a man is busy with his aggression and control he has no idea that a girl feels nothing. Also, aggression/control might work well for women who have as high libido as males do. The women do not need a long forplay, horny as males are and they can orgasm as easily as males can. My guess there is only 10-15% women like that. If you dealing with an average woman, aggression is good only when she is very ready for sex after foreplay. If she rejects your kisses and whatever you want to do with her sexually, it means that she is not ready yet. If you force her to do sexual stuff with your aggression, she will probably follow your lead but she will hate the sex. If she moans/scream during the sex, it is only because of discomfort physical and emotional and pain. Anyway, after sex, she would say the white lie that she enjoyed sex. As for taking control, if she knows what she likes in sex, you should do what she likes to please her. When you take control, you typically do things which you like yourself and you typically believe that she likes the things as well. But, she does not because she is not you and it is not all about pleasing you. Agresson and taking control are often about forcing a woman to please a man sexually and serve him as she is a sexual object.
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