HawksRule Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Hi All, I think this is a great place to vent and see outside perspective on things, but sometimes I can't help but wonder who's giving the responses here because a lot of times it's along the lines of: "he/she's being unfair, dump him/her and call it good" It makes me wonder how many people on here are currently in long term relationships/marriages, with/without kids? etc.
VeveCakes Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Just got engaged , no kids. Happy, just like to try and help when I see situations I have been in in the past. The experience is what makes someone knowledgeable. Although some may be single here, that does not mean they know any else or their advice is not golden.
stillafool Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Married, no kids. I have a lot of experience with relationships.
porter218 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 divorced with two kids and optimistically searching for Mr Right:love:
laRubiaBonita Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 married, no babies- YET...... but i have been "around the block"; been burned; and i have been told- burned a few as well.
aerogurl87 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Ok well I'm in a long term relationship, not engaged or married yet though. No kids either... yet.
seibert253 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Married 16yrs. One 8yr old boy. 2 dogs and a goldfish
fltc Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Divorced, two grown children, currently in a long term (36 year) relationship.
Stung Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Married, with two kids, one biological and one step. Also a veteran of several previous romantic relationships, a couple of them long-term and live-in. I only very rarely would advise someone to dump a marriage at the drop of a hat, personally.
Pickles4Breakfast Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I'm a Mormon with five wives so I have lots of experience.
young&inlove Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I'm a Mormon with five wives so I have lots of experience. Thats not funny or true. I am Morman and I am the only wife to my huband. I am married, 2 years in November and no kids yet, just 2 dogs.
What_Next Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Seperated, will be divorced in a year. 1 child. Had been married for 6, in the relationship for 20.
Pyro Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 engaged and no kids.....yet. This place has been an awesome learning tool for relationships. If you take the time to read some threads on here it can really help you from making some costly mistakes.
GorillaTheater Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I like his name. I offered to buy the kid the drum set if she named him after me. What a gyp. Married 27 years. Lots of kids.
Pyro Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I offered to buy the kid the drum set if she named him after me. What a gyp. Married 27 years. Lots of kids. would you name your kid gorilla? All I did was wax her bus.
Eeyore79 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 In a happy relationship, unmarried, no kids. I've learned from bitter experience that staying in a bad relationship too long is a waste of time, so my general approach is: If the other person isn't treating the OP nicely, then advise them to eject. Bad relationships aren't worth the hassle; someone else always comes along, so if it's crap you might as well get out. The fact is, people don't post threads here if their relationship is going well. Threads are usually along the lines of "My partner is treating me like crap, what shall I do?" Hence why the advice is always "Run away as fast as your legs can carry you, and look for someone who won't treat you like that".
Crazy Magnet Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Divorced. Currently co-habitating and very much in love. 1 dog 2 cats no human children....yet. Engagement and marriage are on the table and are topics of current relationship discussions around my house. I think we'll talk about it in earnest closer to the end of the year.
Stung Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 The fact is, people don't post threads here if their relationship is going well. Threads are usually along the lines of "My partner is treating me like crap, what shall I do?" Hence why the advice is always "Run away as fast as your legs can carry you, and look for someone who won't treat you like that". Sometimes thread-posters are being treated like crap, but often they are just experiencing low periods that long-term relationships always experience, with stress from kids or finances and communication problems/misunderstandings/resentment. These stressors and communications problems won't magically disappear with the advent of a new relationship, even if they submerge during the honeymoon period. Sometimes it's appropriate to advise people to cut their losses and leave, if the incompatibility is insurmountable and fundamental, or if the person is being treated badly or being violated. But often with effort, good will, and maybe some counseling, pools of resentment can be drained, communication gaps can be bridged, fires can be rekindled.
Toodamnpragmatic Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Like a number of males here who post...... Married, living together 24 years, two teenagers.....
LittleTiger Posted September 30, 2010 Posted September 30, 2010 Amicably divorced (14 yrs together, 10 married) - still friends with my ex. Now in a very happy relationship heading towards marriage. One 'step-daughter'. Also had my fair share of relationships in my twenties (from ONS to LTR). My first response is pretty much always 'talk, talk, talk'. If one or both parties can't communicate then I'd recommend MC. If that doesn't work, it's time to press the eject button. There's no point in hanging on to a dead relationship - I've never seen anything come back from the dead.
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