epiclove Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Ok so recently I believe that I have been making what I "thought" to be great strides towards getting my ex back. Recently I asked her out to grab some froyo with me. We hung out and were having a blast. We were talking and connecting all over again. Then she dropped some news on me. She told me that she "might be Bisexual" I was confused as hell by this because she was always the one that was grossed out by the idea of two women kissing, and always gave me the "I would never do something like that" line. She told me that all of these feelings were new and had just started the beginning of the summer. She said the girl she is talking to now is the only girl she has ever had any interest in (btw she has always been the type to be really REALLY confused). So I shake off this news and we continue on with the hang out. We go back to my car and then she reveals to me that this girl is her gf....and that they have been dating for a month. So no she goes from "might be bisexual" to I have a gf? So our hang out continues and we are still talking and joking and catching up. She then touches on my back and I tell her, "would your gf like it if you touched me like that?" She looks at smiles and does it again. But this time rubs my chest. I go ahead and start touching her back and she doesn't retreat or try to stop me. We start talking about other things and then she starts asking me about the girl that I am dating. Eventually our hangout comes to an end and we both agree to hang out again sometime. On my way home I call to make sure she arrives home safe and the topic of the relationship surfaces and we get into a small exchange of words (nothing bad). The next day she texts me sorry about how the night ended and that she really wants to continue to talk and hang out. I told her that I do still have feelings for her and that I don't want to get in the way with her gf. She tells me that she told her gf and that her gf is still ok with hanging out with me.....I thought this is weird because what gf/bf would want their SO hanging out with an ex like that. She said that me touching her was inappropriate but that I should not think too much about it. She then says that she wants to remain friends and just "go with the flow". And if anything happens it happens?? Now I don't know what to do with these lines. What does this mean to you guys??
Von Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Everything she says, and all these little lines and meanings are ways for her to string you along. Your being kept as a backup plan in case her and her new gf don't work out. Don't settle for that 2nd class behavior. Get rid of her and move on. Find a better girl that won't do that to you.
Don Ho Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Bro, sorry to tell you but she's a whack job. Now if you could be unemotional and just hang with her or have sex with her or have sex with her and her GF, then fine. But I don't think you're able to do that. I would move on otherwise you're in for a lot of head trips and misery.
TaraMaiden Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 epiclove, she is so jerking your chain. Listen to von. he's on the button. All this 'bisexual' talk is just her way of having her cake and eating it. And you're the fork. Tell her that while there is someone else in her life - and by the way there is someone else in your too....no? - then you're both off limits. If she is with a gf, that's where she should stay because you want no part in being the fall-back-quick shag guy. It'#s either all of you, or all of her - but no in-between stuff. And you only have her word that her gf is fine with it. Trust me - I don't believe for one moment her gf even knows she hung out with you.
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