Vesna Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Please help. I have scoured the net for advice on how to cope with a jealous SIL but most of the posts refer to 'my husbands sister hates me'. It is not relevant to me because I do not hate ***** but I am starting to see the evil in her ways. My bro and I had an underpriveledged and abusive upbringing, being hauled around the country and going to numerous schools. Our father took his own life when we were young teens. ***** on the other hand grew up in the exact opposite way. Her parents are seriously cashed up and always in love and she has never wanted for anything. Her career was handed to her, along with all the requisite training and mentors. She rubs my nose in it as often as she can. She is arrogant and conceited about her hollow success. She was very nice to me in the beginning but when their second child was born (a girl) she started to show signs of discontent with my presence. As this little girl grows, her hateful vibes towards me are palpable. In earlier times I tried everything to make her like me. I could not just be myself. I started to feel like a sycophant and went out of my way to impress her and make her proud to know me. All it did was make me more depressed. The more I tried, the nastier she got. To shed light on both of us, I have to compare us. She is not very pretty, she doesn't shine like i do. I have always been attractive and as I get older, the effort to stay that way is paying off. My brother is also very good looking and both of us could have been models in our youth. He used to visit me often and we made time to be together with all of our friends. Back to *****. She deliberately dresses in a derelique fashion, even though she can afford to make more effort. Its not just how ugly this woman is on the exterior; I have discovered her inner ugliness. Gossip can be useful in that way. I have heard from a couple of people that they are surprised I get to see my bro at all, after what she has said about me. They did not elaborate and I do not feel i have the guts to approach this pathetic excuse for a human. One person told me they thought she was an oxygen thief and I held my tongue. My bro has lost his backbone since being with ***** and is dependent on her for everything. He couldn't leave her even if his life or sanity was in danger. Fair enough, I have a spare room if that were to happen and knowing how she has felt about me all along, she would see red. Quite honestly, if I died tomorrow, it would probably be a huge weight off her shoulders. Can anyone help shed more light on this situation that is about to break my spirit? For the record, she doesn't have friends, just useful contacts, which to me seems like a shallow, pitiful way to go thru life. Please reply.
Meaplus3 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 OMG.. I can relate.. I have the SIL from He**! Not kidding. She's nothing but a useless.. judgemental bragger.. can't stand the woman. Now.. with that said.. think of it this way.. the problem is with HER not YOU. Don't let her wicked ways.. get in the way of your relationship with your brother.. really it's not worth it. Pity her for the rotten person she is.. and leave it at that. Sorry you have to deal with this. Good luck. Mea:)
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