mannpho Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I had sent her a bday card simply stating I miss you and love you. I received a plain thank you it was nice. I called her a surprisingly she answered. she mg lunch mentioned she would call me that weekend which never happened and i tried calling her but she never picked it up. Several weeks go by and once more I send her text for dinner. The next day she calls during lunch she gossiped about work a bit sounded friendly and stated she would that evening. She never did. I call the next day and she returned my call.he stated that dinner might be be a bit too much and maybe lunch. Then she starts again about the issues we had during our vacation and that I hold things in. during our relationship the constant problem was she stayed on a dating site while aI removed myself. All she was doing was rehashing the past. aI dont understand why she would talk about the past all the time. I am so confused. When she did call during lunch she stated she would call that evening which she never did. The next day she told me she went to a free outdoor concert. Why not tell me that during lunch? What does it sound to you folks? I still have feelings for her but she wont let the past go.. Very confused.
AlwaysConflicted Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 It sounds like you're getting played. She still likes you as a person, just not as a boyfriend. That is the reason why she acts semi nice towards you and agrees to lunch and dinner offers. She wants to be your friend, but she knows you want more. Therefore she is hesitant to commit to your plans for fear that things will be awkward. I think many of us have been in your exact place. I don't know what to tell you except either A.) tell her exactly how you feel and what you want from her or B.) Go NC and see what happens after a period of time.
Author mannpho Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I've told plenty of times how I still love her and miss her. She just doesn't stop bringing up the past problems. Which most are her self centered interests . Why does she call me and then go in to the past issues. Never once has she said that being on the dating site she understands my frustration and anger. I neff advise.
Veronica K Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 You might want to take on board the idea of going NC, at least temporarily. Things just sound too entangled and you're going over the same road again and again.
PegNosePete Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I've told plenty of times how I still love her and miss her. Dude, stop that sh*t. That kind of talk is NOT going to get her back. If getting her back is your ultimate aim, do NOT tell her these things! You will sound like a whiny, needy wuss. She's obviously not interested in getting back with you, that's why she's phukking around with you. Give it up man. Move on.
Author mannpho Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I never bring up the problems. Most are from her and without getting in to them are all in her head. She's the one that returns a call sometimes then goes on to hash the sam stuff. I keep telling her I miss you, I still love you and let's try to get past these things. I just cant figure out with all the emails I sent that were very heartfelt expressing my feelings, she continues to bring up these issues we had. Why does she respond then turns down any invitation with an answere let see maybe next week etc.?
Billie The Puppet Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I never bring up the problems. Most are from her and without getting in to them are all in her head. She's the one that returns a call sometimes then goes on to hash the sam stuff. I keep telling her I miss you, I still love you and let's try to get past these things. I just cant figure out with all the emails I sent that were very heartfelt expressing my feelings, she continues to bring up these issues we had. Why does she respond then turns down any invitation with an answer let see maybe next week etc.? That's the problem she knows you love and miss her so you are no longer a challenge to her. Give a little interest take a little away to keep them chasing once you hit the point where you keep telling them you love them and miss them you are no longer a challenge to them and they lose interest. She responds to emails "just to be nice" and turns down invitations because she wants to avoid the sobbing lets get back together talk she expects to hear. Prolonging is just a delay tactic. If she wanted you back she would be back or at least not blow off plans. Stop telling her you love her and miss her an go NC so you don't have to question everything they say. Trust me a month ago I was at where you were at. Her bringing up problems is not a sign either, It could be this is why we don't work as a couple. I am not willing to hear you'll change etc or let's fix things. It's basically I'm okay with being friends(fake friends as it's always on their terms) but I don't want a relationship with you.
PegNosePete Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I keep telling her I miss you, I still love you Dude, stop that sh*t!! If you want her to stop playing games with you, you need to stop being her doormat.
Author mannpho Posted September 29, 2010 Author Posted September 29, 2010 Calling me a doormat actually helped. I saw myself doing everything in my power and her controlling everything. Thank you that really set my mind in a slightly different direction for NC.
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