Mad Max Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Typical reply, I knew I was gonna get one of those Offcourse there are some exceptions but the vast majority of women would never and have never approached a guy and made the first move. That's just common knowledge, women expect the man to make all the moves and take all the initiatives. Then that's their loss. And instead of being in relationships, they're on LS asking why they can't get a guy or they start a thread saying "I like him, he likes me, he won't ask me out".
jamesum Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I agree, if women were to approach men, I believe they would be rejected more often. And this claim is based on ...?
Author Mattock5656 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 wow, I feel lame. I'm a woman who has been rejected a fair number of times. last three years: -ex-ex asked me on first date that led to relationship -i asked ex-ex's friend out and led to short fling that i ended -guy I hadn't seen for years was in town and asked me on ambiguous first date. He acted cold and rude during the date. I asked him later if he wanted to hook up. at first he enthusiastically agreed and then later changed his mind and blew me off. -I asked my ex-ex's non-close friend out. He declined. -I asked my ex out. He agreed and turned into relationship. -I asked my ex's friend out after ex gave us the OK, and he declined. -random guy asked me out on first date. I passed out drunk during the date and never heard from him again. -online guy asked me out on date. first date led to second date in which we had sex. after that his interest dropped and i sort of "forced" him into a third date in which he tried to use me for sex again, but I didn't let it happen this time. never heard from him again. that's 5/8 rejection rate! moral of the story: I need to stop trying to date my exes' friends... Interesting, it seems you had a interesting journey so far in the dating world lol. I suppose rejection is a part of life, but your right you gotta stay away from those frisky exe's friends...lol It's good to see men aren't the only ones being rejected. Although, good news is that if you got rejected again, it wont effect you that much.. Kudos!
jamesum Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Before my current relationship, when I was online dating, I got emailed three to six times a week. Of those, I rejected the vast majority. You must be one handsome mofo.
Author Mattock5656 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 If the definition of "rejection" is no second date, then that hardly ever happens. But if we're talking about how many women do I approach that lead to a first date, then it's probably about 25-35%. It also depends on how aggressive I'm feeling. Usually, when I chat someone up I have a pretty good feel of how things are going and if I'm not doing well, I'll just bail and not bother asking her out. But sometimes I'm in a more aggressive mood and I'll ask anyway, which leads to more striking out. I don't do any online dating, but that has to be an absolutely brutal way to meet people. OTH, at least you know those women are available. If you meet women in real life, you can never tell if they have a boyfriend or not. Ya man, this is probably similar to my situation. It's really weird, but sometimes I feel like approaching then other days I get nervous or just don't feel like doing it. Probably last semester I walked to a girl in college, after she dropped something on the ground and I just randomly walked to her and started talking to her. (I was amused by my aggressiveness.) After 5 seconds, I said some stuff and screwed to my words and just walked away...lol Although, I've had some women interested in me, but wasn't interested back. I'm screwed lol Online dating, I have only got 1 date so far and million responses etc, and it seems the second I ask if they want to meet they disappear. Either way, it can be really lame for men.
Author Mattock5656 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 And this claim is based on ...? I would have to agree with James, if anything if more women approached men, they would be rejected less, just for the fact that men are normally not used to being approach. They would probably have a heart ache and be like, "whoa she isn't chicken ****" (At least I would, because I normally don't get approach, if they do, they give me body language hints) I'll go with her, and see what happens. But yet again, you can't forget about the sex factor, so that adds more for women being rejected less. I'd say when it gets to the second date, relationship stage or whatever, women might be rejected more.. I dunno, just observations.
amerikajin Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I know this a question you probably don't remember or care to remember, but I am just curious as to see. Women too, how often do you get rejected by men, when you approach (if you do) or just other facets of life? I tend to get rejected alot it seems, usually 3 out of 5 will reject for whatever reason. (That's if I try) I'm not sure if thats high, but I guess it doesn't matter in the end, when you find one person you really like. If you're getting rejected by 3 of 5 women, that means you're going after a lot of women who aren't interested in you at the time that you ask them. Now that could be for a couple of different reasons. One reason might be that they're just not turned on by you and never will be. Another reason might be that you're springing the question and showing interest before you've had time to grow on them. Look for women who are interested in you and go from there. Check out women and sit tight. Be cool. It's kinda like snorkeling: if you approach them before they're ready, you'll spook them and they'll swim away. Let the fish swim to you - you're more likely to get what you came for.
dispatch3d Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 If you're getting rejected by 3 of 5 women, that means you're going after a lot of women who aren't interested in you at the time that you ask them. Now that could be for a couple of different reasons. One reason might be that they're just not turned on by you and never will be. Another reason might be that you're springing the question and showing interest before you've had time to grow on them. Look for women who are interested in you and go from there. Check out women and sit tight. Be cool. It's kinda like snorkeling: if you approach them before they're ready, you'll spook them and they'll swim away. Let the fish swim to you - you're more likely to get what you came for. a 40% success rate is pretty damn good. Honestly I think a HUGE part of what's going on here is a ton of the male posters don't ask out girls they hardly know. Or even know kind of well. They only ask out the girls who seem interested+they've built long ass relationships with that eventually turn into something. These scenarios if she says yes to a first date you are way more likely to get 2nd etc. For me getting the first date with some random is way harder anyways.
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