Mattock5656 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I know this a question you probably don't remember or care to remember, but I am just curious as to see. Women too, how often do you get rejected by men, when you approach (if you do) or just other facets of life? I tend to get rejected alot it seems, usually 3 out of 5 will reject for whatever reason. (That's if I try) I'm not sure if thats high, but I guess it doesn't matter in the end, when you find one person you really like.
skydiveaddict Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I guess it doesn't matter in the end, when you find one person you really like. Yes that's what really matters
USMCHokie Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 What do you count as a rejection...? No phone number...? No first date...? No second date...? No relationship...? No marriage...?
Author Mattock5656 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 What do you count as a rejection...? No phone number...? No first date...? No second date...? No relationship...? No marriage...? Ya, really vague question...I'd say no second date.
BobSacamento Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I'd say 50%. I'm pretty happy with that.
Mad Max Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 The last 5 women I made an effort with, I was rejected by 2 of them. Overall, I don't pursue women often.
dispatch3d Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 not truly believing 40%. Unless you only go for **** that looks like actual "sure things" rather than taking many risks..... I definitely get rejected a fair bit. Girls get rejected? Most of them make no effort....
sanskrit Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I will not get a second date about 10% of the time over the last five years. Before that the percentage was higher due to doing all the wrong things that men are taught to do by bad advice.
USMCHokie Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Ya, really vague question...I'd say no second date. Hmmm, given that definition, then I'd say one rejection out of six first dates from the past year or so...
Mad Max Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Girls get rejected? Most of them make no effort.... That is true, though it's becoming less common these days.
Cracker Jack Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I don't get rejected, since, well, I don't even know how to approach in the first place.
somedude81 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I haven't been rejected by that many women only 20 or so. But considering that I'm currently 0 and 20 it's easy to see that it's very scary for me to put myself into a situation where I know I will get rejected. It's like getting into the ring with a pro UFC fighter. Why bother when you know you're going to get your ass kicked.
Fire Salamander Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I get rejected quite often, but I also get a lot of dates as well.
carhill Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Merging both online and real life results, I'm running about 70%, or 7 rejections out of 10 EOI's. Hopefully, that will improve somewhat after the divorce is final. The percentage presumes expressions of interest balanced against successful second dates.
coloredinks Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 wow, I feel lame. I'm a woman who has been rejected a fair number of times. last three years: -ex-ex asked me on first date that led to relationship -i asked ex-ex's friend out and led to short fling that i ended -guy I hadn't seen for years was in town and asked me on ambiguous first date. He acted cold and rude during the date. I asked him later if he wanted to hook up. at first he enthusiastically agreed and then later changed his mind and blew me off. -I asked my ex-ex's non-close friend out. He declined. -I asked my ex out. He agreed and turned into relationship. -I asked my ex's friend out after ex gave us the OK, and he declined. -random guy asked me out on first date. I passed out drunk during the date and never heard from him again. -online guy asked me out on date. first date led to second date in which we had sex. after that his interest dropped and i sort of "forced" him into a third date in which he tried to use me for sex again, but I didn't let it happen this time. never heard from him again. that's 5/8 rejection rate! moral of the story: I need to stop trying to date my exes' friends...
EasyHeart Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 If the definition of "rejection" is no second date, then that hardly ever happens. But if we're talking about how many women do I approach that lead to a first date, then it's probably about 25-35%. It also depends on how aggressive I'm feeling. Usually, when I chat someone up I have a pretty good feel of how things are going and if I'm not doing well, I'll just bail and not bother asking her out. But sometimes I'm in a more aggressive mood and I'll ask anyway, which leads to more striking out. I don't do any online dating, but that has to be an absolutely brutal way to meet people. OTH, at least you know those women are available. If you meet women in real life, you can never tell if they have a boyfriend or not.
waynebrady Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I know this a question you probably don't remember or care to remember, but I am just curious as to see. Women too, how often do you get rejected by men, when you approach (if you do) or just other facets of life? I tend to get rejected alot it seems, usually 3 out of 5 will reject for whatever reason. (That's if I try) I'm not sure if thats high, but I guess it doesn't matter in the end, when you find one person you really like. Women never get rejected because they never take the initiative and approach a man first. Women are passive when it comes to dating so therefore they don't have the problem of facing rejection.
Philetus Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Ya, really vague question...I'd say no second date. Rarely. Less than 10%.
Philetus Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Women never get rejected because they never take the initiative and approach a man first. Women are passive when it comes to dating so therefore they don't have the problem of facing rejection. Bull****. For the vast majority of women I've dated, I've been the one doing the rejecting. I'd say for every 10 women I date, I reject 8, one rejects me, and the other is mutual. Before my current relationship, when I was online dating, I got emailed three to six times a week. Of those, I rejected the vast majority.
irc333 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Is being ignored or no response count as a rejection? Or does she have to say "Sorry, I'm not interested" in order for it to be a rejection?
2.50 a gallon Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I am retired and it was my experience, that as I grew older and gained in experience (learned how to talk to women as if they were a person) my rejection rate went way down, to almost zero. The soft gentle, ask them about their lives, instead of trying to impress her with my great deeds, was the second best. The best was I learned to dance well and have fun. Then it was "Would you like to dance?", with success rate above 90%. Also by dancing well and outwardly having a good time, I had ladies approaching and hanging around me and asking me.
carhill Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Oh, I've always got on well with women, even as a young man, and they seem to enjoy going out with me, just not, historically, in general, dating me, kissing me and having sex with me. I haven't yet seen the progression that 2.50 speaks of. One of my (married) female friends gave me her sister's phone number this past weekend with the statement of 'I think you should call her and go out sometime' so I'll add another datapoint soon. Of course, being honest about not being legally divorced isn't helping Perhaps, once I get that seal and get over the hurtful critiquing my ex provided of my dancing abilities, success with the ladies will improve. Time will tell
Mad Max Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Women never get rejected because they never take the initiative and approach a man first. Women are passive when it comes to dating so therefore they don't have the problem of facing rejection. Just because they don't approach you doesn't mean they don't approach at all.
Kamille Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I've asked guys out maybe four times. One rejected me. I can't count the times I flirted with guys with no returns. That is the beauty of being a woman. I never really know if those guys were actually "rejecting me" or if they simply didn't get the hint. I have always been asked on a second date. I get rejected much later on in the game. I'd say I've been "dumped" in 50% of the times when an explanation is required, be it after a month of dating or a three year long relationship.
waynebrady Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Just because they don't approach you doesn't mean they don't approach at all. Typical reply, I knew I was gonna get one of those Offcourse there are some exceptions but the vast majority of women would never and have never approached a guy and made the first move. That's just common knowledge, women expect the man to make all the moves and take all the initiatives.
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