littlebittle Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I live in a house with 3 guys and a girl, and we all get along really well. I've known them for years and they are like siblings to me. We have a very laid back atmosphere in our house. We spend time together sometimes, but we all kind of live our own lives. We've been living together for almost a year, and the only problems we've ever really had have been with cleaning duties. One of my roommates recently started dating someone new. When I first met her, I really liked her. She seemed funny and cool, and I figured we'd end up being pretty friendly. But as she and my roommate have become more serious, she's become colder and colder towards me. I'm not sure if she feels insecure that her boyfriend lives with girls or what, but there's nothing for her to worry about. Her boyfriend and I are honestly like brother and sister. It's become kind of uncomfortable when she comes over. She used to always say hello to me, but now she acts like I don't exist. I've caught her rolling her eyes at me a few times too, and now my roommate is kind of acting unfriendly. I really have no idea what's going on with them, and why I might somehow be involved. I GUARANTEE that my roommate is not physically attracted to me or interested in me romantically in any way. I'm not sure how to broach this topic without starting problems, but it's really bothering me. I've asked my roommate if everything is cool between us, and he always says yes. What should I do?
amerikajin Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I live in a house with 3 guys and a girl, and we all get along really well. I've known them for years and they are like siblings to me. We have a very laid back atmosphere in our house. We spend time together sometimes, but we all kind of live our own lives. We've been living together for almost a year, and the only problems we've ever really had have been with cleaning duties. One of my roommates recently started dating someone new. When I first met her, I really liked her. She seemed funny and cool, and I figured we'd end up being pretty friendly. But as she and my roommate have become more serious, she's become colder and colder towards me. I'm not sure if she feels insecure that her boyfriend lives with girls or what, but there's nothing for her to worry about. Her boyfriend and I are honestly like brother and sister. It's become kind of uncomfortable when she comes over. She used to always say hello to me, but now she acts like I don't exist. I've caught her rolling her eyes at me a few times too, and now my roommate is kind of acting unfriendly. I really have no idea what's going on with them, and why I might somehow be involved. I GUARANTEE that my roommate is not physically attracted to me or interested in me romantically in any way. I'm not sure how to broach this topic without starting problems, but it's really bothering me. I've asked my roommate if everything is cool between us, and he always says yes. What should I do? I have no doubts that there's nothing going on between you and your roommate, but it is a fear that a lot of women would have. I wouldn't feel comfortable if I had a girlfriend living with a guy roommate, either (unless the guy was a complete dweeb and ugly).
Sham WOW Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Why don't you take the first step in quelling her fears? Speak up! Tell her that your roomie is important to you and you want them to be happy. You aren't involved with them and would appreciate a little more kindness and consideration when she is in your home. Don't be threatening, but if you are the one to step up and tell her that you don't want her man, she may feel better about the whole thing.
Cee Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 Why don't you take the first step in quelling her fears? Speak up! Tell her that your roomie is important to you and you want them to be happy. You aren't involved with them and would appreciate a little more kindness and consideration when she is in your home. Don't be threatening, but if you are the one to step up and tell her that you don't want her man, she may feel better about the whole thing. Yes, speak up. Approach the GF and say something like, "We haven't been talking lately. Did I do something that made you mad?" Either she has to come up with something concrete or deny a problem. By you pointing out that you see her distant behavior, she's being gently called out on that behavior. My guess is that she doesn't want to look like a b*tch and will be friendlier from then on.
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