Dejin Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 Hey, Well, I guess I could start off by saying that I am a healthy person. I'm 18, I weight train every day, I jog daily, ...but the best thing about me (I think) is my mental attitudes toward my future: I have extremely high ambitions and goals. As for what those goals are exactly, I plan to continue my Martial Arts, become even more physically fit, continue my education (4 yr degree minimum), get my ultimate job, and (the silly one) get myself a street-bike. -grin- See, I think of these things and get really excited about them, its almost as if I can't wait to get started. I look at my peers and it seems they are not the same. Yeah sure, they say they'll go to this college or that one, but they don't seem excited about it. I'm completely the opposite. I'm struggling with this, is it wrong to look forward to the future? Am I just weird like that? Or is this something that sets me apart, something good? And finally, for all those who have indeed suceeded in life, do you picture a teenager with these kinds of views 'naive'? I sit here and *know* that I can do these things, but do you sit at your computer and believe that I cannot? (Be Honest!) Do you believe that the goals you had as a teenager were unrealistic, and that nothing ever really works out the way you want it to?
dyermakerr Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 No, of course not. Having ambition is a good thing. It's not a great thing to look down on your peers, but I understand where you're coming from.
Darkangelism Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 No looking to the future is good, you are more mature then they are. Follow your dreams, you have the opportunity to do a lot. what kind of martial arts do you do....that is offtopic,lol
Author Dejin Posted February 26, 2004 Author Posted February 26, 2004 Ah, well I don't mean to look down on them for that. It's just kind of frustrating is all. Some of my friends (and even my best friend) don't really seem to even care about where they can be. I'm currently a green belt in Taekwon Do. Tough, but I enjoy it
Darkangelism Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 ah just a green belt in taekwon do, i have a black belt in a kung fu/karate hybrid style, so thats why i wanted to know, i think taekwon do is too much kicking, i think Shaolin ku fu, brailian ju jitsu are the best styles.
Author Dejin Posted February 26, 2004 Author Posted February 26, 2004 Wow, you sound very experienced. That's really cool. I like Taekwon Do because, believe it or not, it helped me out of my depression a while back, (martial arts definitely has a way of making you feel better about yourself). Plus its mainly a defensive fighting style. Maybe someday I'll go into other forms though.... who knows? Oh, one last thing. Umm are Nin jitzu and Ju jitzu related?
Darkangelism Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 I studied for 12 years, until i got out of high school, i don't have the money to continue now, no ninjitsu and ju jitsu are not related any more then they both stem from the japanese. There is a person on here from japan so he might be able to give a better translation, cause my japanese is kinda bad. jitsu-truth; reality; sincerity; fidelity; kindness; faith; substance; essence ju- teach, mantra, sensation, in consequence nin-man,duty,charge,sword ju jitsu is a ground fought stle mainly with leverage and fighting once it goes to the ground, ninjitsu is primarily weapons based. にんじつ -ninjitsu じゅじつ -jujitsu
Author Dejin Posted February 26, 2004 Author Posted February 26, 2004 Oh ok, I see. Thanks for clearing that up.
clia Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 And finally, for all those who have indeed suceeded in life, do you picture a teenager with these kinds of views 'naive'? Of course not! It's great to be excited about your future. I sit here and *know* that I can do these things, but do you sit at your computer and believe that I cannot? (Be Honest!) Do you believe that the goals you had as a teenager were unrealistic, and that nothing ever really works out the way you want it to? All of your goals are totally reasonable and accomplishable (is that a word?). If you were on here saying you were going to be a better basketball player than Michael Jordan, I might think you were being a little naive, but you plan to go to college, stay in shape, get a street bike, etc. All totally doable and realistic. Good luck!
Arabess Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 One day you'll be driving to the bank to make your healthy payroll deposit.... in a car to die for. You'll be glad THEN....that you made 'the plan' NOW.
yes Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 i wish i had such clear goals when i was 18! godo luck -yes
CaterpillarGirl Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 Dejin, I felt the same way when I entered college. I always had goals for myself, education-wise, and basically charted out my life at 18. I've pretty much stuck with it, too. I'm 24, in grad school now, and really excited about getting a fun job when I get out! I can empathize with your frustration that others around you don't have a similar mindset. There are many opportunities out there (internships, scholarships, research) that people don't take advantage of because they aren't motivated enough to investigate and pursue them. Hopefully, you will be. Keep your eyes on the prize, and realize there are people out there like you!
yes Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 i don't think it's that people aren't motivated enough to explore these opportunities (although i'm sure some aren't). i'm amazed at how some people know what they want to do so early in their lives. i'm interested in a whole list of things, which is nice in itself but makes it very hard to pursue anything in particular. it's like liking 10 guys very much - it's great to like them so much & all, but you can't marry any of them because the of the other 9, so you end up standing in front of the 10 and not moving. do you know what i mean? that's how it is for me: i have two filters that fish out what i'm interested in: one lets through 10 things, the other one lets through nothing (because at some level, i don't see anything at truly and completely worth pursuing). another side of it is conflicting values - or not even conflicting, but hardly found all in one place. add in some insecurity and the pie is ready to be smashed, hehe. that's my defense of people with no particularly clear goals -yes
carla Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 It's great to have goals in life. Once you achieve them you make more goals. I have done some study in business and even when it comes to business you have to have goals : increase sales by 25%, increase customer service, etc. If you don't have goals in life you would be leading a pretty boring life. The more motived you are to achieving those goals the better the chances are that they will be achieved. May all your dreams come true.
yes Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 you see, choosing your goals isn't necessarily so easy. choosing goals is a goal in itself. don't you find it hard to decide what you'd like to achieve? and once you've set some goals, don't you find yourself trying to revise them? doubting them? i mean good for you if not, i suppose... -yes
CaterpillarGirl Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 Originally posted by yes i don't think it's that people aren't motivated enough to explore these opportunities (although i'm sure some aren't). i'm amazed at how some people know what they want to do so early in their lives. i'm interested in a whole list of things, which is nice in itself but makes it very hard to pursue anything in particular. it's like liking 10 guys very much - it's great to like them so much & all, but you can't marry any of them because the of the other 9, so you end up standing in front of the 10 and not moving. do you know what i mean? that's how it is for me: i have two filters that fish out what i'm interested in: one lets through 10 things, the other one lets through nothing (because at some level, i don't see anything at truly and completely worth pursuing). That's what makes internships so great! There's no reason not to pursue them, because the whole idea is you getting to know a particular field/job, and whether or not it's something you want to go further with (and the company/institution gets cheap labour). But I know what you mean about seeing so many great options! Of the 89 majors at my campus, all but two (business and chemistry), appealed to me! I guess you're just an existentialist at heart, Yes. -CG P.S. If it's any consolation, I am unable to make other, simpler, decisions, such as where to eat for dinner, what color shoes to buy, and which road to take to get to my bf's house.
carla Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 I don't think that it is to hard to make goals in life, every one has wants. I think the hard part is making the difference between reality and fantasy. If you want to be a millionaire that maybe a fantasy, what you do to try to achieve this goal can become a reality. If in the end you become a millionaire great. But if you sit back and do nothing and expect someone to hand a million dollars your just fantasing.I think the problem with some people is that they may make their goals to unrealistic. Start small and work up. Each step in life is an experience. Each step you take in life is one step closer to the next.
moimeme Posted February 26, 2004 Posted February 26, 2004 I'm a lot like yes in having many competing interests. As for setting goals; I've done that - and life has smashed many of them to smithereens. I've learned that I better darn well learn to go with the flow or else be drowned.
yes Posted February 27, 2004 Posted February 27, 2004 "I guess you're just an existentialist at heart, Yes" Damn straight, Caterpillar!! You're right about internships though - trying things out is the only way to know how they really feel. Good advice. Carla, making small goals is easy, but i'd never reach them because i realize they're too small to worry about. I have some goals, of course, but they're more like choosing the worse over worst, as opposed to striving for something i truly care about. Moimeme, I guess there's a balance to be had between going with the flow and having goals. I'm sorry to hear some of yours didn't work out though... -yes
Author Dejin Posted February 27, 2004 Author Posted February 27, 2004 Thanks for all your support and comments. yes- Choosing my goals wasn't all that easy, you're right. (Without getting too personal here) Just about all of my goals were and are based off of my interests as a young(er) person, and it wasn't always easy to find those interests... many times I found myself struggling and worrying about who I was and what my place was. But there came a time when I felt happiest thinking of a few certain things I wanted, in that I found my most valuable goals. I think also that after completing some of these goals in the future, my viewpoints and interests may shift. Maybe some goals will dissapear, but in that others will take their place. I guess what it all boils down to is what will make you as a person happiest. What would make you happiest? Arabess- yeah, one day that may be true... can't wait! It's good to plan ahead. EnigmaXOXO- lol. clia- Thanks a lot CaterpillarGirl- Well thats good that I found somebody that was in my situation. I'm glad you're doing well, and I hope I'll do good too. No wait, I will do good too. carla- You're right. It does take motivation to complete (the realistic) goals. And determination. In my case, inspiration as well. My mom and dad are very successful, which pushes me to do the same. At the same time, I am prepared to work extremely hard to accomplish them. As a matter of fact, I would rather work really hard to achieve what I want. I wouldn't want someone to hand me everything. If that were to happen, I actually would feel more like a failure than if I had failed at some of my goals that I had worked for. Part of completing my own set goals adds to pride, self-confidence, and most importantly, character. At least, in my opinion.
Author Dejin Posted February 27, 2004 Author Posted February 27, 2004 Didn't mean to click submit moimeme- I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure it happens to everyone at some point. Guess you just gotta pick yourself up and try again.
Tkay Posted February 29, 2004 Posted February 29, 2004 Good for you. Very good I'd like to be like that! My best friend is EXACTLY the same, I'll give him your MSN If u want (PM me)
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