cecilia0524 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) I need some of you to tell me or give me an idea what this guy is thinking about. I am still in college, earning towards a fashion design degree here in New York, while this guy that I have known for 4 years now is in Los Angeles working in a banking field in hopes of becoming a successful banker one day. We were prom dates, and had a couple dates before. We kissed, held hands, but never verbally and directly discussed our relationship status. Every time I visit my hometown Los Angles, we would spend quality time together, usually for a whole day depending on our availability. He said he is self studying hard for the GMAT exam (an entrance exam for masters in business and management), while I study hard in becoming a fashion designer. He has wonders about my love relationship/status everytime we meet up, but we never really talk on the phone - we normally communicate through the texting world. Sometimes he would say things like "I think it will be the perfect pair for us - Banker plus Fashion Designer." Which the word "pair" confuses me in what he is trying to imply - is he only interested in working with me? or is he interested in having a future with me? Our relationship is so vague that I sometimes don't know what he is thinking about. What do you guys think? Edited September 27, 2010 by cecilia0524
stillafool Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Since his comments seem vague to you they are even more vague to me. Why doesn't he call you on the phone if he is interested in more?
Author cecilia0524 Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 Since his comments seem vague to you they are even more vague to me. Why doesn't he call you on the phone if he is interested in more? He doesn't seem to be the type of guy that would like to talk on the phone. I took the lead to call him at the beginning, but things just didn't follow the way I want, so I did not call him after. He seems to be a shy guy, which can be a trouble sometime. But, a guy wouldn't make out with a girl if he doesn't like her (but he knows that she likes him), right?
David. Posted October 1, 2010 Posted October 1, 2010 Maybe he thinks all the relationship stuff was settled long ago and is just getting on with it. Not that it's a realistic approach! Seems that so many men don't have the vocabulary to talk about relationship stuff, so maybe he's unable to convey his understanding of things. On the other hand, you've left yourself out of the picture. What do you want from him? What are you doing about it? Have you conveyed your understanding of things? I reckon you are both either in the same groove and it's just happening without any fanfare, or you're both just coasting along without having any idea of what it is you're doing with each other. Might be time to sit down and clarify a few things for yourself and each other.
Author cecilia0524 Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Maybe he thinks all the relationship stuff was settled long ago and is just getting on with it. Not that it's a realistic approach! Seems that so many men don't have the vocabulary to talk about relationship stuff, so maybe he's unable to convey his understanding of things. On the other hand, you've left yourself out of the picture. What do you want from him? What are you doing about it? Have you conveyed your understanding of things? I reckon you are both either in the same groove and it's just happening without any fanfare, or you're both just coasting along without having any idea of what it is you're doing with each other. Might be time to sit down and clarify a few things for yourself and each other. David, thank you so much for your comment. I do agree with you - we seem to stay away from the topic regarding our "relationship status", which he may not see it as important at this point since I am away on the other side of the US. But question, if you do not have feeling for someone, will you still make out with her?
Arabella Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 But question, if you do not have feeling for someone, will you still make out with her? Uh, yeah. Guys do this all the time. Now, if they have feelings for her, then they will pursue a relationship. But making out? That doesn't require any feelings for the majority, only attraction.
Author cecilia0524 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Uh, yeah. Guys do this all the time. Now, if they have feelings for her, then they will pursue a relationship. But making out? That doesn't require any feelings for the majority, only attraction. Arabella: It depends on which type of guys tho I think. But I do agree with you that the majority think with their pants more than the head. hahaha... No offense to those who aren't, just my point of view from observations.
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