fabio10 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Hey all just looking to poll opinions on first loves, Im 27 and broke up with my girl during the summer now she is my first love without a doubt, which makes me feel like I should have experianced this maybe in my teenage years, I have been with plenty of other girls but none that remotely made me feel like she did. Is it unusual that at 27 Im dealing with this ? What age were you when you dealt with your first love? Do you still think of them (how long are you apart) ? Are you still in contact with them ? Looking forward to your opinions and stories....
McGrupp Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 i dont know if there is an exact age, obviously younger is better. i felt like this. I was dumped at 24 and most of my friends had been through a tough breakup somewhere between 18-22...so i felt out of the loop, but now ahead of the game in some sense ; ie not getting divorced at 40 and freaking out b/c she was my whole world
Eeyore79 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I was 17 the first time I fell in love - I'm 30 now and I still think about him sometimes. I'm in love with someone else now, but my first love will always have a special place in my heart. Nowadays though, it's more of a nostalgic feeling than an "in love" one.
Gdunkman Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I think everyone has his own definition of love and there's no ideal age as for me, because human beings are so different. A friend of mine, who is in relations for 8 years declares he never experienced love in his life, he is 26 y.o. As for me I loved a girl who was my classmate in the period 9 to 14 years, then I went NC as I changed school and forgot her in some months.
Username37 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I fell in love when I was 15 and the relationship for a 1.5 years. 17 now, and still trying to get over my first love.
Iselia Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 First love at 14. Lasted for about 4 years. Now 18, broken up for 5.5 months, NC for 1.5 months. Really sucks.
Billie The Puppet Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I for one think age does play effect. I'll give two stories. First Love (Adult) First real love with the girl at 24, she left me at 25 (2 months ago) of course most of us will describe our most current ex. First Love (Puppy) Now at 12 I was in puppy love with a girl who I still wonder about all the time and even with the wonders of FB I can not seem to find her at all. I mean at 12 years old relationships are not much they are in fact the curiosity learning stage. I have wondered about her even while I have been in relationships since her including the above relationship. Now here is the thing the puppy love story above was my 3rd GF, I dated two prior to her. Yes I started dating young. Now this is why I think age comes to effect, first love doesn't necessarily mean first GF/BF (what ever may apply to you) but I think first loves really apply when you think they are the "one" you can spend the rest of your life with now I know this is going to be debated as a reply as some will say they have gone on an married others since their first love which of course does happen because first love situations do not always work out but what I think really defines first love is you want to build up a past, present and future with them at some point in the relationship. First loves obviously can still fail. (Why I am here and also they say is the hardest to get over)
spriggig Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I was 17, the summer after I graduated from high school. It lasted 1 1/2 years. I looked her up about six years ago and was genuinely happy to see that she had followed through on her dreams and become very successful. The important thing isn't the age, but that you learn from your mistakes. What happened to break you two up? What part of it was your responsibility--under your control? What are you doing to learn from the experience? Reading this site is an excellent first step. Here's what really sucks, in retrospect, I made the same mistakes with my first GF that I made with the following three and then again with my almost ex-wife. It's only now, at almost 45 years old that I have some grasp on what I was doing wrong for all those years--I was Captain of a ship on the River Denial. I was "innocent", it was always their fault--I know better now. Jump back in and try again, sooner than later. Pay more attention this time.
AlwaysConflicted Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I was 19 and it lasted until I was about 23. I'm 30 now. I've had 3 serious relationships after my 1st love, a handful of casual affairs and most recently I was broken up with the 2nd woman I've ever loved. I am a broken man who clearly can't maintain a relationship. But to answer your last question. I talk to her every other year and it's still hard for me. I love that girl so much and the day she marries her current boyfriend will be one of the saddest days in my life.
skydiveaddict Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 I don't think it's so much about your first love, more so the one you thought you would spend your life with. The one . To have that fall apart really leaves you with nothing. At least in my case.
summerl0vesyou Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) Hey all just looking to poll opinions on first loves, Im 27 and broke up with my girl during the summer now she is my first love without a doubt, which makes me feel like I should have experianced this maybe in my teenage years, I have been with plenty of other girls but none that remotely made me feel like she did. Is it unusual that at 27 Im dealing with this ? What age were you when you dealt with your first love? Do you still think of them (how long are you apart) ? Are you still in contact with them ? Looking forward to your opinions and stories.... the first one that I really loved, I was 16. I think of him pretty fondly now, Im 21 now...he ignored me for the first year and a half-ish of being broken up and i was devastated. but then we started talking, I started seeing other people(NOT just rebounds, like I did when we broke up). and finally i was able to accept him being with others (NOT like when we first broke up...he'd get GFs and Id go crazy!) we had a falling out about a year ago because of something his friend said, and he didnt believe me. but i still look at him in my mind and "aww"...Nothing romantic anymore, just a fond feeling. though honestly after reading Billie's post, I have to say I agree. I loved the first guy and was crushed when it was over, and I spent a very long time getting over it. but the guy im trying to get over now, I fell for when i was 19, and THAT was true love.. theres a big difference, but u dont notice it until you find that deeper bond. Edited September 28, 2010 by summerl0vesyou
Sonolumino Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 First love was at 17 years old, now at 20 I'm picking up the pieces. She's already moved on. I think everybody thinks their first love is going to be "the one". Who knows, maybe I'll find the true "one" out there
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