girly81 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Honestly I don't know what I mean by long term...more then a few months...more than a year. MM/MW not looking to change that but simply wanted to add something to a fairly good but mundane life. Question: What has been unique enough about your situation to make it sustainable? What have you/are you doing right?
WowReally Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Question: What has been unique enough about your situation to make it sustainable? What have you/are you doing right? All you're doing is to maintain an affair is allowing the MM/MW to lie to their spouse that they're not looking to leave. Affair are shams...it's just one big house of cards that could collapse at any given moment. I mean if you want a dead end relationship and dont mind being with someone who lies to everyone I guess that's someone's choice. It was my choice for awhile (over a year) and I can't say I really regret it but I will not repeat it.
siuys Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 It was my choice for about 8 months. I was in love and believe he loved me too. Strong physical attraction, many similar interests etc. I think that made it last for 8 months. At the end of the day, it was an A, and because usually there are so many things wrong with affairs that it is bound to be hurtful, and bound to end at some stage. It ended for me because xMM flipped and flopped and he is not like the person I first met. My needs are not met (I want a proper R, not an A). He's messed up and I'm over b.s.
Circular Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 For me, it started as an EA... how long it lasted... that's an open question as it's cloudy as to when it moved from friends to an EA. All I can really say is that it lasted nearly 2 years. It eventually migrated into PA land, but then that also marked the downfall of the relationship, the guilt can become consuming. What made it last the length it did? We had amazing chemistry from the day we met, which was more than 6 years ago. We just had this magnetism between us that was unique and we were just drawn to each other. Maybe you'd say we had complimentary personalities. Once we got to know each other we found we connected on so many different levels, it was almost uncanny how much we had in common or how we could just talk about what was going on in our lives. We broke it off around 6 months ago, which is still haunting me, and I miss the friendship we had.
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