Sambo Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 It's been 3 months since my break up and I can't say I miss her for more then like 5 mins now per day but every now and then I get a reminder of how much in love we were. Today I was cleaning out my some files and I found and old birthday card from our first year together and it read. You are so much more then I could have ever wanted. It's funny because I know she meant that at the time but it's so sad that people change and I never understood how someone could love you so much and then just stop. O well such is love and life. Nothing lasts forever I guess.
durkadurka Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 (edited) It's been 3 months since my break up and I can't say I miss her for more then like 5 mins now per day but every now and then I get a reminder of how much in love we were. Today I was cleaning out my some files and I found and old birthday card from our first year together and it read. You are so much more then I could have ever wanted. It's funny because I know she meant that at the time but it's so sad that people change and I never understood how someone could love you so much and then just stop. O well such is love and life. Nothing lasts forever I guess. Intriguing, I ran into the same thing today as I was moving out of my apartment. The card read (amongst other things) 'I am so happy to be with you, and I look forward to being a part of your life while you explore all the possibilities out there. I love you, and will always be there for you.' Fortunately for her I wasn't much of a sappy type, so the only thing she has left from me was a ring, and a dress. Maybe if I were kinder, she would have stayed, or I would not have been so easy to forget about. Edited September 27, 2010 by durkadurka
Trovador Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Kind of sad, isn't it? I've got ridden of all the mementos, traces and remainders of my last relationship, but there is always something to remind me of her (as the song goes), fortunately she wasn´t of the lovey dovey type, so when I come across one of her old mails, I don' find anything which could cause me an excruciating pain... Now that I think of it, I don't have a lot of pleasant memories either... guess that must help a bit...
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 This is quite odd, that someone would bring up and post about "finding old letters or cards" from their former love. This happened to me approx. 3 months ago. My ex-wife about 7-8 years ago bought me one of those Hallmark talking Birthday cards, the type that one can record their own voice into. Well I was getting rid of the final two remaining small card board boxes from my master bedrooms walk in closet, that we left overs from a time long gone by aka marriage. I started to prep the boxes for throw away, opened the first, nothing but old stuff, bill statements, expired credit cards, my ex-wife's old Costco member card, stuff like that. But the second box, that was the killer! While prepping that box for throw away, I discovered my old Birthday card! My ex-wife before giving me the card, sprayed it with her perfume called "Exclamation", while getting it out from it's envelope, I could smell her scent! I forgot it was a "talking card", I opened it and talk about a kick in the nut's! "Zen, my love, I love you so much, all I can afford for you is this card, my gift to you is my love! You are my Husband, you are my life, and we will always be together forever!" Let me tell you, this 40 year old man felt like he was just haunted by a ghost! I felt so many flooding thought and emotions I thought my head was going to explode. Smelling her and hearing her in one shot, to much, I dropped to my knees on my closet floor and just had myself a good cry. I'm not ashamed that I had that good cry, it's been 2 years and 5 months since we divorced. I just figured there was a little bit more in the tank to get out, had that cry, lowered the emotions in the tank, I felt better... But safe to say I couldn't bring myself of throwing it away, I rather gave it to my Mother, had her put it in her gun safe, which I don't know the digital combo too, thank gosh, but I wanted to save it, don't ask me why, I just did!
Gdunkman Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I got rid of all the reminders as well, the final lot of them will be sent to my ex on Wednesday - I'm sending her her stuff she left at my place. The only big reminder is a "treasure" we buried in the forest about one hour drive from my place. We put different mutual stuff and letters to each other we haven't read to a metal box and we were going to dig it out and read those letters in July 2011. What should I do now? Go to the forest, find a treasure and burn it? It would be sort of childish The only thing I'm sure about is that I'm not going to read that letter she wrote me, it was written in 5 months after we met, it should be too romantic. Talking about crying, I cried for several times this summer, once when she was leaving and she read me a poem with its basic idea "I leave, but may be someday I will come back", so it touched me and I cried. I felt stupid afterwords as I realized she could have read that poem to every her ex she broke up with, it wasn't a poem prepared for me.
Author Sambo Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 "Zen, my love, I love you so much, all I can afford for you is this card, my gift to you is my love! You are my Husband, you are my life, and we will always be together forever!" But safe to say I couldn't bring myself of throwing it away, I rather gave it to my Mother, had her put it in her gun safe, which I don't know the digital combo too, thank gosh, but I wanted to save it, don't ask me why, I just did! Wow that would have broken me down too. It's amazing how emotions can come rushing back like this.
Author Sambo Posted September 28, 2010 Author Posted September 28, 2010 I got rid of all the reminders as well, the final lot of them will be sent to my ex on Wednesday - I'm sending her her stuff she left at my place. The only big reminder is a "treasure" we buried in the forest about one hour drive from my place. We put different mutual stuff and letters to each other we haven't read to a metal box and we were going to dig it out and read those letters in July 2011. What should I do now? Go to the forest, find a treasure and burn it? It would be sort of childish The only thing I'm sure about is that I'm not going to read that letter she wrote me, it was written in 5 months after we met, it should be too romantic. Talking about crying, I cried for several times this summer, once when she was leaving and she read me a poem with its basic idea "I leave, but may be someday I will come back", so it touched me and I cried. I felt stupid afterwords as I realized she could have read that poem to every her ex she broke up with, it wasn't a poem prepared for me. Leave it there !!! One day who knows but I think that's a pretty cool thing to have out in the world. Your young now but in the future this could be a really nice memory.
whatadeer26 Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 You should probably burn the forest down just to be safe. As for me, I got rid of anything and everything that reminded me of her. On the other hand she actually kept everything I ever gave her. She told me she still has the card I gave her for Valentine's Day, the .25 ring I got her from the machine at the movies, etc.
The-Zen-Warrior Posted September 28, 2010 Posted September 28, 2010 Wow that would have broken me down too. It's amazing how emotions can come rushing back like this. This whole "emotions" thing is kind of a tricky little beast, it jumps up and bites you in the a**, when you least expect it! That's what happened to me, found that card, opened it and talk about flood gates opening. It probably took me somewhere in the ball park of 3-4 days to recover for this incident. Talking to my ex-wife currently on the phone, mainly about just our Son is one thing, it's just "voice" it is one dimensional. But you put "smell" and "voice" and "memories" together you've jumped into the third dimension, and talk about powerful stuff....
Username37 Posted September 29, 2010 Posted September 29, 2010 I boxed all those letters and cards away. Too painful because the things she wrote were the sweetest and the most loving things I've ever heard. And now.....we don't even talk and she's lovely dovely with someone else. Life is a painful mother****er some times.
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