Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Hi! I appreciate your honesty, and it sounds very interesting. I wouldn't want to do what you do, but yes I would like to learn some things from you. One thing I am puzzled about, you cook 3 coarse meals for your kids at night? Anyways, these guys you say who are married happily, if they are married happily, why do they come to you please? Do they feel like they dont' get enough sex at home? Or, do they just like to have variety or what exactly, do you think? Thanks. My kids enjoy good food. I love to cook and they appreciate it. I don't do that every night but I do half the time. They often aren't getting much sex at home. Some are variety addicts and some I just can't explain why they do it. When I say happily married I mean they love their wives, are involved with their children and have a pretty good homelife. This doesn't mean there aren't some issues like past affairs the wives had and they are getting secret revenge, lack of intimacy from the wife. Or the wife has gained weight or stopped taking care of her appearance and they still crave an attractive partner. Please don't misread and think I am saying these reasons are good. I am simply telling you their misguided logic.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Do you ever give these men advice on how to please their wife more so she will want to have sex more with them?
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 I have another question if you do not mind. You said you would be thrilled if you were to be married in the future. Would you tell your prospective husband of your profession? Don't you think it would be difficult for a potential husband to accept all of this for a future mate? I am not sure if I would tell him or not. Depends on how I think he would react. most likely I wouldn't even try to marry till I have a regular source of income for a long period of time. When I graduate school I will be a crime scene investigator and then would be a better time to date in the real world. But who knows, I have had lots of marriage proposals from nice wealthy single clients and that would be an easy option because they already know about it and aren't bothered by it. "Do you ever fear seeing one of your kids friends dads? " Yes!! but this is why I don't work close to my home and also will not see anyone who lives in the same town as me. I do actually have a screening process for new clients. But mostly I only see clients that I have been seeing for years and don't have to see many new ones.
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Do you ever give these men advice on how to please their wife more so she will want to have sex more with them? Yes.. Very often I do this. I don't want them having to see me and wish for them to correct any issues at home. I recently have had two longtime clients fix their problems at home(as best they can) and no longer see me and I am extremely happy for them. They both saw me for one last time to tell me the news that things were getting better and they will no longer see me and I gave them all the advice I could to keep it that way and told them that I was proud of them. Sex isn't always the problem, sometimes its communication. A lot of these guys didn't realize that they weren't being the perfect husbands and this is why they weren't being treated well by their wives.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Don't they do major background checks before you can be hired for a police dept. Don't you have to work your way up to detective/crime scene investigato. You don't just go to school and become a crime scene investigator. Are you fearful the background checks and psychological testing will turn up something? Especially when you make $500.00 an HOUR and probably don't claim near that. ten hours a week is more than $200,000.00 a year.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 by the way I am not buying your story but i will play along for a bit.
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 Don't they do major background checks before you can be hired for a police dept. Don't you have to work your way up to detective/crime scene investigato. You don't just go to school and become a crime scene investigator. Are you fearful the background checks and psychological testing will turn up something? Especially when you make $500.00 an HOUR and probably don't claim near that. ten hours a week is more than $200,000.00 a year. I don't have a criminal history..what would turn up? I come from a good family and have a job cover and pay my taxes. There are no red flags. No I don't claim all my income but I do claim a large income. I do also take a large amount of time off throughout the year o I don't make that much. The type of work I will be doing isn't one you have to work up through the police dept. It is a seperate field. You do have to work your way up in that field but not as like a cop or anything, you have to work in the labs first.
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 by the way I am not buying your story but i will play along for a bit. hahaa!! OK *shrug* I don't really care if anyone buys it. I am just trying to help. What exactly don't you buy?
PegNosePete Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I agree with GG... someone's been watching too much Secret Diary Of A Call Girl 1
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 I agree with GG... someone's been watching too much Secret Diary Of A Call Girl No, my life is nothing like hers. Seriously guys. Do a little research and see exactly how many women are doing this.. really. It's a large number where I live. I can pick them out of a crowd easily and take pride in the fact that nobody can tell I do it. I'm sure many of the guys on this board see us too. For all I know I have clients on here:eek:. I have always wanted to talk about it or write a book but I can't because I don't want to get caught because my life is so normal. It's way more common then you want to know.
BB07 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I'll bite.... Do you consider yourself more attractive than average? If so, do you feel like your looks open doors that otherwise would not be opened to you, such as proposals from wealthy men? Do you feel that too much value is placed on looks by men?
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 I'll bite.... Do you consider yourself more attractive than average? If so, do you feel like your looks open doors that otherwise would not be opened to you, such as proposals from wealthy men? Do you feel that too much value is placed on looks by men? I would say I'm very attractive and that has made life very easy for me. The proposals from wealthy men are always an ego boost but I hesitate because if they are seeing me (even though single) what would make me think they aren't seeing others. Also who is to say they aren't married and are just really good liars? Another problem is I wonder if they really would hold what I do do against me later dow the road. Too many what ifs. Perhaps to much value is placed on looks but it works in my favor.
BB07 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I would say I'm very attractive and that has made life very easy for me. The proposals from wealthy men are always an ego boost but I hesitate because if they are seeing me (even though single) what would make me think they aren't seeing others. Also who is to say they aren't married and are just really good liars? Another problem is I wonder if they really would hold what I do do against me later dow the road. Too many what ifs. Perhaps to much value is placed on looks but it works in my favor. I would think that inside you would always feel some insecurity as to do they really like/love me or is it my looks they like/love more if you choose to get into a relationship down the road? I suppose seeing men as you do, would make you very cynical and make it difficult to trust? Men do lie about being married.....
thomasb Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Is this Lizzie? I think the stories are alot alike. 1
JustJoe Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 It is my considered opinion, after reading this thread, that we are dealing with a small, mis-shapen individual, who lives under bridges and inhabits fairy tales. 1
Dexter Morgan Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 eventually I would love to be married. No, I highly doubt they will ever find out. I have a really good cover for a regular job. My friend own her own company and she is the only one n the world that knows, so she claims me as an employee for my friends and family. well by these words I take it you wouldn't be interested in total honesty with someone that would do you the honor of putting a ring on your finger. that being the case, someone ready to devote their life to you deserves honesty. and since it doesn't seem you have an interest in being honest with someone that would give you that consideration......best not to get married until you realize what love and committment are about......and it aint about lying.
BellaBellaBella Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I do not care, if this is fiction. I will admit to enjoying this thread. However, I am a curious individual and prefer to make my own judgements. So Spillin, what is the craziest thing that has ever happened with your job? What job do you actually claim to have?
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 lol i think married men who have other women are smarter than this sex for hire clients. They get sex outside the marriage, the ow will keep their secret because she is desperate not to lose them, and it's free. it's like their own personal free escort. the ow are usually at their beck and call too without charging. Your clients are silly. Why not just get a girlfriend instead of paying for you?
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 I do not care, if this is fiction. I will admit to enjoying this thread. However, I am a curious individual and prefer to make my own judgements. So Spillin, what is the craziest thing that has ever happened with your job? What job do you actually claim to have? Yaaa let's hear a juicy crazy client story.
BB07 Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 lol i think married men who have other women are smarter than this sex for hire clients. If that were true, then there would be no market for escorts. I would think the reason some MM go to an escort is it's obvious there is no emotional involvement expected, with an OW it's not so clear and the waters become more murky. They get sex outside the marriage, the ow will keep their secret because she is desperate not to lose them, and it's free. it's like their own personal free escort. the ow are usually at their beck and call too without charging. Your clients are silly. Why not just get a girlfriend instead of paying for you? GG if you think that it's all about sex for a MM and OW, you are deluding yourself. More often than not, it's not the case. If the MM wants only sex and can afford it, I would think an escort would be the preferable way to go, no illusions about emotions getting involved. Of course one size doesn't fit all, but your implying that all OW are only a sex toy for mm.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 Actually I think many/some married men go into an ow situation with the intention of having some fun and not getting feelings involved. They even tell the ow upfront they are not leaving their wife. Many begin with a friends with benifits. I remember some long term ow on here before who found their man on craigslist looking for fwb. The unintentionally the feelings do develop with the intimate nature of their relationship. Hmm I wonder if the happily married men using escorts have been down the ow route before and got burned and have now decided to pay for it.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 GG if you think that it's all about sex for a MM and OW, you are deluding yourself. More often than not, it's not the case. If the MM wants only sex and can afford it, I would think an escort would be the preferable way to go, no illusions about emotions getting involved. Of course one size doesn't fit all, but your implying that all OW are only a sex toy for mm. Don't you feel like your mm was just toying with you and his wife? And you were a longterm affair.
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 I do not care, if this is fiction. I will admit to enjoying this thread. However, I am a curious individual and prefer to make my own judgements. So Spillin, what is the craziest thing that has ever happened with your job? What job do you actually claim to have? The craziest thing is a guy that I refer to as "creepy bug guy"(I nickname most of most clients). He saw me for about a yr and would bring roaches in a jar when he saw me and wanted me to talk dirty to the bug as I jerked him off him with my feet:sick: He paid well and tipped but he really creeped me out with the whole bug thing. At least he would laugh while we were doing it so it wasn't too bad and he didn't want sex. I think he was married and I understand why he wouldn't want to share that insanity with his wife. I don't want to tell to many personal details about myself because I really am scared of someone who knows me being on here. I am paranoid in that way.
greengoddess Posted September 27, 2010 Posted September 27, 2010 The craziest thing is a guy that I refer to as "creepy bug guy"(I nickname most of most clients). He saw me for about a yr and would bring roaches in a jar when he saw me and wanted me to talk dirty to the bug as I jerked him off him with my feet:sick: He paid well and tipped but he really creeped me out with the whole bug thing. At least he would laugh while we were doing it so it wasn't too bad and he didn't want sex. I think he was married and I understand why he wouldn't want to share that insanity with his wife. I don't want to tell to many personal details about myself because I really am scared of someone who knows me being on here. I am paranoid in that way. :laugh: trying to think of what it is you would tell a bug sexually.
Author SpillinItAll Posted September 27, 2010 Author Posted September 27, 2010 I would think that inside you would always feel some insecurity as to do they really like/love me or is it my looks they like/love more if you choose to get into a relationship down the road? I suppose seeing men as you do, would make you very cynical and make it difficult to trust? Men do lie about being married..... Your probably right. I haven't been in a relationship for a log time so I am not sure how I will feel but I sure there will be some insecurities. And yes, I am very cynical about men but I feel that I am armed with more insight then most because of how honest these guys get with me. They don't feel much need to lie about their real thoughts because it doesn't matter in this type of scenario. And yes, men lie about being married all the time even to me. One client lied for 3yrs to me about that even though I had known all along because I saw the tan line on his ring finger.
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